Work-Life Rebalance In 3 Simple Steps

That day I dreamed I had a "normal" life.  I remember staring out my office window at exactly 5:00 PM on a Friday evening. Happy, smiling people poured outside the building entrance and into the parking structures, ready to embrace their weekend.

I look at my overflowing in bin, and sigh. My eyes settle upon my carefully planned Day Timer as it beckons me to get back to work. I sigh again. There has to be something more to life than work! 

"Sooner or later, we all have to find a way to find a good work-life balance." says freelance writer and workplace wellness consultant Mike Martin.

"If not, we find that work takes up so much of our life that there is little time left for anything else. Or, we pay a much greater price in terms of our physical, mental, or emotional well-being."

I couldn't agree more.  I stare at the can of diet coke, and the half eaten Snickers Bar on my desk. I have a headache, my neck hurts, and I wonder why I am working so hard on all this "stuff", because on my death bed I certainly will not be thinking about my work deadlines! 

The naked awareness shakes me.  I get up, grab my coat and make a vow from that day forward to make my work my play, and to reclaim my life.

In a recent article MikeMartin shares 3 simple yet practical ways to re-balance your life and your work.  If you are currently feeling like you are all work and no play, these steps will help you to take a step back, rethink, refocus, and refresh.

Read the full article here to discover three simple lessons on work-life balance.

If you found these tips relevant - leave a comment below and let me know your thoughts!


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Goal Setting: The Magic of Congruence

Congruence is the state achieved by coming together, the state of agreement. The Latin congruō meaning “I meet together, I agree”. As an abstract term, congruence means similarity between objects. Congruence, as opposed to equivalence or approximation, is a relation which implies a kind of equivalence, though not complete equivalence.

Make sure you are congruent with your life purpose.

In order to assure, quick and effortless success you must make sure that your life goals match up and are defined in relationship with your life purpose. What do I mean?  Everything in your life flows from your heartfelt purpose, or intent. It is your purpose which is the lighthouse on the top of the hill.  Like the lighthouse beacon, it guides and directs you in every area of your life. Your purpose points you in the appropriate  direction everyday of your life.

Here is an example using part of my life purpose as a author: “To inspire and encourage myself and my readers to achieve our highest potential and to embrace our best life; To live an awakened life, consciously and freely in truth, love and power“, while my goal for the mental aspect of myself as a writer is to “To unlock and utilize the full creative capabilities of my mind.”  My goal then is actually a subset of my purpose which is to achieve my highest potential and to help others do the same. Both compliment each other and are therefore congruent.

So how do more specific goals like stopping smoking fit into the larger picture?

First, take a look at what that specific goal personally means to you. If I was a smoker and wanted to stop for instance, for me, stopping smoking would mean looking and feeling my personal best and achieving vibrant health. This would fit in with my with my purpose to embrace my highest potential.

Here's an eye opening truth, if your goals and your purpose are not congruent with one another, it either means that:

1.      Your goals are not in-line with what you really want to do, have, or be in life. If you find yourself in this category you need to take an honest evalutation of your overall life purpose and what it is that you want.  Revisit your purpose, and list your goals.   Then take a a look at each to understand 'the why' or the motivations you want to achieve or have these things.

2.      You have a limited the definition of your life purpose. In this case you will need to spend some time mulling over your life purpose and expanding your definition and vision of your purpose.

Do you know what your purpose is?

If you have not yet contemplated and/or discovered your life purpose , I highly recommend you read the informative articles Finding Your Life Purpose before proceeding, as your life purpose sets the right framework and background for your setting goals. The magic of congruency is that when you are able to identifying your life purpose you have absolute clarity on your direction and focus in life, which means that you do not need to spend your entire life trying to grow apples when you actually wanted grapefruit.

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Must Read Personal Empowerment Books for 2014

Want to explode into your personal power in 2014?  Research has proven that 'readers are leaders'.  Take charge of this New Year by including one or more of the following books in your self-improvement reading list for 2014. . .

Top 15 Must Read Books for 2014
by Hay House

When a year ends, it’s like finishing a favorite book. You really don’t want it to end because you’re still savoring all the good parts, but you also want to wrap it up so you can start the next one. Read more . . .

I don't know about you, but reading is one of my favorite self-improvement and spirituality tools for personal transformation.  Not only is reading a inexpensive way to glean life changing information, but if you are a reader like me, I am sure you would agree that its fun too!

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The Greatest Success Tip of All Time

I had the rare opportunity to have tea with my teacher Chetsang Xian Rinposhe. As we sat, sipped tea, and engaged in conversation, I asked him the following question. “Teacher, if you had one success tip to share with the world what would that be?”  

True to my beloved teachers character and style he answered me by first sharing the following story:

There is an ancient story about two monks who sought to achieve enlightenment at a well-known monastery.  The first monk, named Druki, did not like to share his knowledge with others, but the second monk, named Chiko, shared his knowledge with everyone who would listen.

Druki  thought, “If I share my knowledge on achieving the path of enlightenment with the others, they will become my competitor in the monastery”. But Chiko thought differently, remembering the Buddha’s teachings that, “To give is to gain”. 

Druki was puzzled by Chiko’s actions as he noticed that he spent much of his time answering his fellow monk’s questions about his experience on the path towards enlightenment. Yet never did Druki hear Chiko complain and say, “I am wasting my time answering the questions of my brothers”.

One day, out of curiosity, Druki asked Chiko why he spent the majority of his time sharing his knowledge with the other monks. To which Chiko simply answered by saying, “To give is to gain”.

“What does that mean?” asked Druki. 

“It means,” answered Chiko, “that anytime I answer a question, I sharpen my knowledge”.

But Druki did not understand and thought, “How silly. How can he sharpen his knowledge, and what has that to do with the path of enlightenment?”

Not soon after his encounter with Druki, Chiko achieved the state of enlightenment; and he was greatly revered by the other monks for he achieved so much in so little time.  It was only then that Druki understood that; to give knowledge is to gain knowledge. 

At the end of the story Xian Rinposhe said this, “As the knife that is constantly sharpened loses its effectiveness, so is knowledge gleaned that is not shared. The greatest success tip of all time then is to share what you know with others.” 

Master Xian’s answer had a profound effect on me, causing me to contemplate the value of sharing what you know with others, instead of selfishly hoarding it.  I began to realize that knowledge freely shared is like a Cosmic ripple, evolving not only the consciousness of the teacher but also the student.                                           

There is an ancient proverb that says, “The tribute to learning is teaching.” When you share your knowledge with other people you receive back that knowledge with a deeper understanding of its intrinsic meaning; and this type of clarity is power.

Sharing your knowledge with others increases their experience and wisdom, and that new found wisdom broadens not only the student’s perspective on the subject, but also the teachers perspective as well. 

Learning something new increases the student’s joy, enthusiasm, and zest for life.  This excitement and passion is contagious and carries over from the student to the teacher.
Take some time today to find ways you can share what you know with others. Teach a class, write an article, create a blog or podcast. As you share your knowledge and experience with others, you will find that you want to share even more. Sharing your knowledge with others is a way of  ‘paying it forward’. 

Everyone has a unique and transferrable form of wisdom to pass onto to others, and freely sharing that wisdom creates a lasting legacy for both teacher and student.  “Share your knowledge with others,” says  His Holiness the Dalai Lama. “It is a way to achieve immortality.”

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Motivation: The 3 P's That Hold You Back From Success

Do you set your standards high, but always feel like you've failed? Learn about the 3 "P's" and end the vicious cycle that keeps you stuck and ineffective.

The Vicious Cycle

Perfectionism, procrastination, and paralysis - one often leads to the next, in a vicious cycle, especially on large, long-term projects with no clear deadlines. Let's look at each part of this cycle, and explore some concrete steps that you can take to disrupt the cycle.

Perfectionism

Perfectionism can be defined as striving towards impossibly high goals. Perfectionists are caught in a trap, they can never be good enough. They engage in rigid, black or white thinking about their own performance, if it isn't perfect, it's horrible.

Ironically, perfectionists often achieve a product that is far less than perfect. At times, their performance is mediocre. In contrast, those who aim at more realistic goals can outperform the perfectionists. How can this be? The procrastination and paralysis that results from overly high standards causes the perfectionist to wait until it's too late, then rush to do something; anything. The more relaxed realist, in the meantime, is able to put an effort in earlier, over a more prolonged period of time, with more chance to let time and subsequent changes or editing improve the final product.

Procrastination

When you believe that your next project should set the world on fire, you are setting yourself up for failure. At some level you know that this level of achievement is unlikely. You lose your energy and excitement for your project.

On a football field, when the coach yells at the team that they are a bunch of @$#% for playing so poorly, the players may play better. That is because they are enraged at being humiliated and they can use the rage to batter their opponents. This doesn't not work in other spheres! Criticism, whether from your boss or your own inner critical audience slows you down, and interferes with your thinking process.

It is so easy to put off the next step of your project when thinking about it makes you experience unpleasant feelings. So you procrastinate. "I'll get started tomorrow, and work twice as hard." But it's hard for you to ignore the fact that you are not living up to your own high expectations for yourself. "I'm lazy." "I have no will power." As time goes on, you start to grind to a halt.

That leads to the third "P." Paralysis You do absolutely nothing on the very project that is most important to you. This is devastating for your self-esteem, and very discouraging. It's hard to plan your next project when you failed to complete your last one.

How to Avoid the 3 "P's" There are steps that you can take to avoid falling into the vicious cycle of the 3 "P's":

Become aware of the perfectionist audience voices in your head (no, you're not crazy.) You can't learn to ignore them if you don't know that they're talking to you.

Learn how to answer them back (don't do it out loud or people will think you're crazy.) An example would be, “OK it's not my best work but at least I'm finishing it.”

Look for role models who are satisfied with "good enough." Note how they get things done and are not looked down on by others.

Set up realistic goals. One way to tell if a goal is realistic is if you can actually do it. For example, "Read two articles and write for 15 minutes before 5:00 tonight" is a realistic goal. "Read two articles and write for 6 hours and write 10 pages before 5:00 tonight" is not a realistic goal.

If you have reached the third "P," drastic steps are needed. Talk to a trusted friend, find a "project buddy," or seek coaching. Do Not Give Up. It is very possible to get yourself out of the paralyzed state and back to productivity with just a little help.

A Final "P." Or Maybe Two Productivity Start with baby steps. Do a little every day. As you observe your own productivity, however small it may be, you will start to feel better about yourself. You were capable all along – it's just that your unrealistic expectations stopped you from functioning optimally. Eventually your productivity will start to look like Progress. And that's the last "P" for today.

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Law of Attraction: 3 Golden Rules of The Power of Gratitude

In the Law of Attraction there are many fine points in the application of Universal Law that people tend to overlook. One of these often neglected Universal Laws is the power of gratitude. Harnessing the power of gratitude will not only give you the ability to enjoy the process of manifesting more, but also the capability to reap avalanches of abundance and prosperity!

"God has two dwellings: one in heaven, and the other in a thankful heart." ~ Izaak Walton

When you have a thankful heart you become a magnetic force of Universal Law, and will become a receiving station for unlimited success in your life. But in order to unlock this magnificent force, you must first understand how the power of gratitude governs the Universal Laws at your fingertips.

How then can an attitude of gratitude unlock your unlimited potential to succeed? The 3 Golden Rules of The Power of Gratitude state the following:

1. Gratitude activates the Law of Attraction. Gratitude sets the law of attraction in rapid motion in your life. The Law of Attraction states that "like energy attracts like energy". Your thoughts and emotions are energy vibrations. Thoughts of gratitude cause a myriad of positive thoughts and emotions to occur inside of you each time you express your heartfelt gratefulness. And when you express gratitude for the people and circumstances in your life you draw more of this positive energy into your life.

2. Gratitude allows you to recognize and to appreciate all the good in your life. Complacency is the biggest killer of passion, and thus dreams. It is very easy to take your good fortune for granted and instead focus on acquiring the 'new and better' in your life. The mere act of expressing your gratefulness to the Universe, to other people, to the world - allows you to not only recognize the many blessings in your life, but also to enjoy and appreciate those things.

3. Gratitude allows you to experience more prosperity and abundance. When you focus on, actively enjoy, and appreciate your money and your pocessions, you draw into your life even more abundance and financial prosperity. And the more you enjoy, delight in, and pay attention to the prosperity and abundance in your life, the more you will manifest more in amazing, fun, and sometimes seemingly miraculous ways.

The bottom line is that you always get what you consistently focus your thoughts and emotions on. Unlock the power of gratitude in your life starting right now by taking the time each day to give thanks for all the good you experience in your life, and enjoy the things you have right now. When you do this you will activite the floodgates of prosperity and abundance and begin to easily, and effortlessly, live the life of your wildest dreams!

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How to Perform the 'Ahhh Meditation' for Manifesting

The Ahh Meditation, or Japa meditation is not only a great way to calm the mind and release stress, but also is a very effective way to manifest the life dreams and desires that are important to you.

I first came across this method for meditation through a seminar I attended hosted by Wayne Dyer, who was given the technique by spiritual teacher and mystic Baba Sri Siva.

What exactly is Japa meditation? Japa meditation is the repetition of the sound of "Ahh!" which is said to be the universal sound found in the various names of God from all spiritual traditions. For example: Allah, Krishna, God, Buddha, Ra. Each one of these names for God holds the sound of Ahh.

Think about how you use this sound in everyday life. When you find something pleasing you might express your feelings with a satisfying Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!

According to Wayne Dyer's teacher, Sri Siva, when you do this meditation process for manifesting there is no lag time. Results happen immediately. Personally, I have had many experiences with this meditation technique where I found this to be true.

Here is Sri Siva's process on how to do Japa mediation for manifesting:

1. Think of something you really want or need to have happen. New job, divinely satisfying love life, superb health, more clients, more money etc. Be specific. If you want more clients for example,be specific in how many more clients want.

2. Imagine a column in the center of your body starting at your root chakra (approximately the spot between your anus and genitals -- the point where your body is touching a seat cushion when you are sitting) and at the top end of this imagined column is your 3rd eye chakra, which is between and slightly above your eyes.

3. Close your eyes and say the sound "Aaaaaaaaah" out loud while imagining the sound traveling upward from the root chakra to the 3rd eye chakra. It may seem strange at first, but try to extend the length of the sound Aaaaah for as long as comfortable. As you do this, turn your eyeballs upward slightly and imagine the intended goal in your mind's eye, picturing the goal like a movie, as if projected in front of you onto an imagined movie screen from your third eye chakra. It is important that this mind picture of your goal be as if you have already achieved what it is that you want. Using our previous example of getting more clients a great visualization would be seeing yourself smiling and shaking the new clients hands. If you have trouble visualizing, just allow yourself to 'feel' how you would feel if you were already doing, being, or having what it is that you want.

To see if this manifesting technique is right for you I recommend that you commit to do this once a day for two weeks merely as an experiment, to see for yourself if this is useful. You could do this for 15 to 20 minutes (with a timer), or say Aaaah 108 times with a mala (a string of 108 beads for counting), or just do the sound until you feel like you've done enough for each day. Better yet, get the cd or audiotape of Wayne Dyer's "Meditations for Manifesting" and follow along!

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Personal Magnetism: How to Make Yourself Memorable

Have you ever had the experience of meeting someone for the first time and being totally being captivated by their personal magnetism and excitement for life?  These types of people create an instant good impression on you and as a result become memorable.

Being a memorable person means be an unforgettable person.  And it doesn’t take a genius to recognize the advantage of developing an extraordinary pleasing persona in relation to your business and career, as well as with your everyday personal relationships.
 
The wonderful thing is that is that you can hack the learning curve in developing your personal magnetism and charisma by applying a few overlooked strategies in your everyday personal interactions with everyone you come into contact with. 

Cesar Pavese once said said, “We do not remember days, we remember moments.”

How then can you become the type of person that creates memorable moments; a person who is compelling and charismatic?  Here a few useful and effective ways to get you started:

Live with passion!  A memorable person enjoys life and living, and shares that passion in everything he or she does, or says. Their body language, words, and expressions are those of enthusiasm and joy, and that zeal radiates out to everyone they come into contact with. 

This type of fervor is contagious, and shifts people’s emotional state to one of positive receptivity.  Modern psychology teaches that the most effective form of influence is learning how to shift and control a person’s emotional state.  The easiest way to do this is to make sure that you lead first with the positive and uplifting emotional state that you would like others to respond to.

Be a great listener.  Being a great listener means genuinely becoming interested in other people.  Years ago, when I was a young attorney attempting to procure clients I did what most newbie business men and women do – I read books and attended courses that would help me to increase my bottom line.  One of the books I read was the classic by Dale Carnegie, “How to Win Friends and Influence People.”  One of the chapters shares this important point of becoming sincerely interested in people. Carnegie states that one of the first ways to do this is by learning to be a great listener. 
I decided to put this insightful tip to the test one night as I met a potential client for dinner.  This client was dubbed ‘the geezer grouch’ by some of my colleagues who were unsuccessful in acquiring his business. 

Usually I was the one who led and controlled the conversation, but on this particular night I decided to just listen and ask questions. The results I had were absolutely shocking. 

My potential client, an older gentleman, was a successful business manufacturer who owned several manufacturing plants throughout the country.  I began our dinner by asking him a simple question – ‘how did you get interested in your type of work?’ 

Three hours seemed to vanish as this gentleman shared with me a fascinating rag to riches story, gave me some valuable tips on business success, shared with me the titles of some great self-improvement books, and in the end not only did this gentleman become one of my regular clients, but also sent to me several lucrative referrals.  At the end of our dinner he shook my hand and told me, ‘you know you are a great conversationalist’ – yet all I had done throughout our entire meal was to listen and ask him questions!

Share your adventures with others, tell a great story.  People have been telling and listening to stories since the dawn of time. And people love to hear stories that encourage, inspire, and motivate them.  Everyone remembers a great story.

When you share your stories with other people you become memorable because stories keep people engaged in the moment by moment drama.  Professional speaker Patricia Fripp says, “Stories are the creative conversion of life itself, into a more powerful, clearer, more meaningful experience.”  Great stories move, entertain, instruct, and inspire people to increase the quality of their lives.

I have a journal and I enjoy recording things that I encountered during the day that were funny, motivating, inspiring, encouraging, or that have emotionally moved me in some way.  These experiences are either personally observed or personally experienced; but they always have a positive outcome. 
Share your great life stories with others. But here is one caveat, people want to hear stories about the fabulous, and if you want to be memorable and to influence others you need to omit stories of failure unless they have a positive outcome.

Being a memorable person means being an influential person.  Groom your personal magnetism and charisma daily by applying these effective strategies in your interpersonal relationships until they become a habit.  You will not only find your sphere of influence increasing each day, but also find that your life is more interesting, personally enriched, and financially prosperous as well.

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My Thoughts On The Lessons of Love

Recent events in my life have taught me that the best thing to do in any situation is just to love people. How can I be a better friend, a better daughter, son, brother or sister, etc.? So often we go through life and we don't really take the time to just simply love people.

For example I hop on a bus, I've got all this time to take interest in other people, but yet I just sit by myself, and pass the time, just wondering what others are up to. Most likely someone will come on the bus, and then something about them will set an emotion off inside of me, and I will be quick to judge them. For example: "What is up with her dressing like that?"

If you can relate to me in this way, I've realized that love is the answer. Love. What is love?

Love is patient, Love is kind, It does not envy, it does not boast, It is not proud, It is not rude, It is not self-seeking, It is not easily angered, It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not celebrate evil, but celebrates with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. Love never fails.

Now if quoting The Storyteller in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 isn't going to do it for you . . . What really is love and what does it look like?

Love is genuine: "Don't just pretend that you love others. Really love them," The Storyteller says.

Love is taking a moment to talk to the person sitting next to you on the bus, taking an honest interest in their life. Love is offering your seat to someone who is standing. Love is saying a prayer for the people riding with you, asking Source to bless them. Love doesn't mean soley a physical response to those around you, such as holding hands or kissing the guy sitting next to you.

I've started to see in my life that as I open up to people with love, that my life began to change in amazing ways. I heard a story about a highschool girl walking home one day from school. She was terribly depressed and down on life. She was ready to commit suicide when she arrived home, as she felt that she has just had enough of this present lifetime.

Suddenly, out of no where, a classmate who had never spoken to her, comes up and asks if he can carry her books, and walk with her. Because of the love expressed by that boy, she didn't go home and commit suicide and instead found new meaning in her life.

We think of saving lives as the stuff of firefighters and police officers. But stop and think - what about that boy? Was he not a lifesaver? Perhaps he didn't boldly enter a burning building or stop a fire, but he did take the time to love.

So, what is keeping you from taking the time to stop and to show love to others more?

My first response was, and the one that I hear from most people was this: I'm too busy, or I love enough already. I would say however, that if you honestly took some time to answer that question you would have the same response as I had which is this - I'm not too busy. I just manage my time badly. I'm riding the bus anyways. Why not love the guy sitting next to me. I love enough already. There is never a time or a place in your life that you will love enough.

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The Shocking Truth About How To Increase Your Productivity!

Before I share with you the simple, yet somewhat shocking truth about how to increase your productivity, take a look at the following questions to see how you fare.

Have you ever spent valuable minutes, hours and perhaps in some cases, even days searching for something you misplaced?

Have you ever argued with a loved one or scolded them for misplacing something of his or hers?

Have you ever missed a important date or an appointment because you forgot?

Have you ever been halfway to your destination and remembered you didn't bring what you needed?

Do you have piles of papers scattered on your desk or around the house, or have a stack of unopened and opened mail that you will get to someday?

Do you have that nagging notion constantly telling you to get organized?

Do you find yourself reading books and/or articles on how to get organized?

Have you purchased organizational tools to help you stay on top of things and then never used them?

If you answered yes to even one of these questions you are most likely not organized to the point you would like to be. I have a very simple solution to this problem. This is a tried and proven method to get you organized and eliminate all that wasted time spent trying to get organized. You can read as many books on the subject of organization as you want, and buy all of the tools, but you only need one thing. Let me share with you a little secret.

If you are serious about increasing your productivity and getting results you must get organized. Here is a little secret that my mother taught me when I was a little girl and it still works form me today – every time!!

PUT EVERYTHING BACK WHERE IT BELONGS.

Organization starts with putting everything in its own designated place. It doesn't mean to dump your stuff in a corner of a room designated for that particular item, but instead having a clean, and uncluttered area in which you can find the things you need in an instant.

It doesn't take a lot of work to get your life organized, but it does take dedicated effort to make it a habit. Here are just a few ideas that can help you become better organized.

Write your appointments and important dates in a designated calendar as soon as you are aware of them. You can also use the calendar application on your cell phone, as well as several online free reminders services, or your email calendar, in order to remind you of upcoming dates and appointments.

Develop a method to quickly and easily navigate through your mail. I often open up my mail in front of my paper shredder. Make three piles of mail in the following category - important, interesting, and trash. If the item is important it will need your immediate attention. Examples of important items are incoming bills, membership dues, and life, health, auto, and home insurances. Interesting items include magazines, and other pieces of mail that you would like to read a bit further. The trash pile is self-explanatory.

Designate an entire day to create "stations" for your stuff. I did this with my craft items and am quite pleased with how fast can find what I need.

Increasing your productivity starts with the habit of consistent organization. If you want to achieve massive results in your life you must learn to be organized. An organized life is not only a peaceful life, but more importantly, it is a successful life.

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How to Have Confidence and Power in Dealing With People

One of the many reasons why people lose confidence and power in dealing with people is because they are too overly concerned with what other people may think. They feel they won't be liked if they said what was on their mind. What these people really are doing is making up an excuse in order to attempt to avoid conflict; the very conflict that they need to provide the learning experience of inner growth, knowledge and confidence for dealing with people in the first place.

Conflict management, or managing the conflict of ideas and thoughts between two or more people, can be an incredible learning experience for everyone involved, so much information is revealed in these intense periods that if we can learn to keep our integrity in tack during these short bursts of emotion, common ground can be quickly found.

However, if your confidence and power in dealing with people is somewhat watery at best, here are three tips to clarify your thinking and get you back on track.

1. What Do You Want Confidence And Power For?

You interact with different people on a daily basis, and you need cooperation from these people because you know you cannot do it all alone. You also expect a certain amount of reciprocal behavior to get to where you want to be, so it would be beneficial to know what your motives are for persuading people over to your way of thinking?

2. What Is Your Attitude Towards Conflict?

True self-confidence is developed from the act of carrying out a successful task that has an element of personal risk or challenge. Confidence is also about disagreeing or saying no without feeling guilty in situations where you have strong opinions; to stand up for oneself so to speak. So if someone violates your space in some way, do you take the courage or confidence to take responsibility for the situation and speak up or do you just ‘let it go’…again?

3. Preparation Is The Key

One of the key secrets to real confident behavior is preparation, look at the words you are habitually using and prepare your speech in advance. Learn to be speak with authority, maybe even take a few singing lessons to develop vocal power. Develop a mental picture of your successful self, speaking confidently with the desired outcome.

Dealing with people effectively is a skill that can be learned and developed over time, at some point, you will have to get started, you will have go up to someone and say your piece, even if you stand their dumb struck and your face turns crimson with embarrassment, the first step has to be taken. If you feel nervous or shaky about doing this, you need to feel the fear and do it anyway, if its on your mind, the time will come when you will have to act, go in, do it with the expectation you are going to get it all wrong, but it is never as bad as you think it is going to be. One thing is for sure, conflict is a learning experience, you will learn more about confidence in one session than a lifetime of reading books or articles on the subject.

Remember, confidence is an attitude, a skill set that is learned and developed through application, a state of mind that can be achieved through deliberate consistent actions. You might be naturally shy or quiet and think real confidence is beyond you, but personal confidence can be one of your greatest assets. Learn to believe in yourself and your abilities, it is not easy, you will only gain power and the mental toughness needed through struggle, there is no short cut. You will only learn and grow through the challenge of getting started.

Make no mistake, to act with deliberate intention and say what needs to be said will require consistent effort on your part, you must rehearse what needs to be said, like a musician performing a great song, they had to rehearse once upon a time. Great speeches or monologues are not 'winged,' there is always great preparation that is goes unseen, which can give you the misconception of 'they were born that way', when this is in fact, far from the truth.

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3 Power Traits of Highly Successful People

I don’t know about you, but I am always on the lookout for success tips and strategies that can help me to accelerate success in my life. And in my own life, one of my favorite things to do is to read biographies about a variety of highly successful people; people past and present who have achieved great things in their life time. As I study these people I jot down their insights and beliefs in an attempt to unlock their personal strategy for success.

Throughout my study I have narrowed down 3 three power traits or habits that all highly successful people have:

1. Never give up. Perseverance is the number one power trait of highly successful people. To never give up means to stay focused on what it is that you want to achieve in life and to not quit. This means to keep at it and to always move forward no matter what challenges you may face along the way. The dominant attitude of highly successful people is this: I will always advance forward one more time even if the road towards success appears bumpy or difficult to navigate.

Jack Canfield says, “Whatever your dream is don’t give up. You may have to fine tune it . . . learn some new skills, or go back to the drawing board and start over . . . but don’t give up.”

2. Ignore the ‘good opinions’ of others. Highly successful people do not worry what other people think about their dream or goal. Stay true to what it is that you want to achieve. Your dream or goal is specifically yours, and as a result, no one has the right to tell you what they think you should do or not do in relation to what it is that you want.

The truth is that most people feel threatened when someone they know are attempting to break out of the box of mediocrity. When they see others attempting to trade in a life of mediocrity for a life of success and fulfillment, they recognize their own failures, shortcomings, and regrets in life and are then quick to judge and criticize others.

When I first began studying personal development and success thirty years ago I received a fabulous piece of wisdom at a goal setting workshop I attended. The advice I was given was to keep your heartfelt goals a secret, because the only person you need to approve of your success is you!

I applied this sage piece of wisdom in my own life immediately; because at that particular time in my life, I was surrounded by negative people who were content with the status quo. I then began to covertly set and achieve my success goals on a routine basis unencumbered by negativity and I felt totally free! The results in my life were absolutely liberating because in doing so I was able to navigate my way towards my personal best without carrying the emotional baggage of others.

It all comes down to this, when you become less concerned with what other people think, you will open the door to much greater opportunities for success and abundance in any area of life you choose.

3. Take 110% responsibility for your life. Highly successful people take absolute control over their lives and know that blame has got to go. Statistics show that 70% of the people on this planet blame others for their failures in life. Instead of pulling up their boot straps and trying again, they give up, and blame their mom, their dad, the environment, the economy, etc.

As soon as you buy into the blame game, you get knocked off the winner’s platform of victory. You place yourself in a losing situation because you are depending on the outside world to be successful and happy.

Highly successful people realize that success is created from the inside out. This means that you need to take responsibility for what you think, what you visualize, and what you say and do; because these are the things that control your life experience.

I love what my mentor and teacher Tony Robbins says about your governing your inner life for success and achievement. “It all comes down to the inner game. Changing your life is an inner game. You can’t always control what is going on in the outside life, but you can take control of what is going on in your inner life.”

Your success is closer than you think. Apply these 3 power traits of highly successful people in your life starting today and not only begin to achieve your personal best, but also experience the satisfaction of living the life of your dreams.


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Jim Rohn's Secrets to Goal Setting Mastery

Jim Rohn was one of America's foremost business philosophers and a master personal development coach. One of the greatest contributions Jim Rohn shared with the world is his SMART system; a proven method on how to effectively set and achieve goals.
 
SMART is an acronym that means Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-sensitive. The secret key to success in the new millennium is how you set and pursue goals and the application of the SMART system will not fail to deliver an abundant and fulfilling future

Here's a closer look at each of components of SMART:

Specific: A SMART goal is specific. Your goals should be specific and clear. Vagueness is a goal destroyer. Ambiguous goals produce ambiguous results. When you are specific, you harness the power of your dreams and set forces into action that compel and empower you to achieve your goals. There is no question about what you want to achieve. As you establish your priorities and manage your time, you are able to concentrate on your specific goal to achieve the results you expect.

Measurable:  A SMART goal is measurable. Jim Rohn suggests that you always set goals that provide you with a means of measuring your progress. They should be such that you know not only when you are progressing forward, but also how far you are progressing.  Measuring your progress keeps you on track. You cant arrive at a destination if your not able to determine where you were going.  Measurable goals also gives you a feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment by giving you a instant feedback of your forward progress.

Attainable:  A SMART goal is attainable. One of the biggest goal setting faux pas is to set goals that are so high they are unattainable. While I do believe that it is important for you to set big goals that cause your heart to soar with excitement, I also believe that it is imperative to make sure that you can attain those goals. So what does it mean to set a goal that is attainable?  An attainable goal is one that is both realistic but also attainable in a shorter period of time than what you have to work with. We will talk about realistic goals in the next component. Setting attainable goals doesn’t mean setting easy goals. Your goals should be set so they are just out of your reach; so they will challenge you to grow and stretch as you reach forward to achieve them.

Realistic: A SMART goal is realistic.  Your goals have to be something that you can reasonably make "real" or become a "reality" in your life. There are some goals that simply are not realistic. How then do you know your goals are realistic or not?  This to some degree up to each individual. To gauge if  your goal is realistic or not you need to extremely honest with yourself as you evaluate what you want to achieve and engage in your planning.  Here are some examples of unrealistic goals: trying to earn a billion dollars in one day, lose two hundred pounds in two days, get a law degree in one year, etc. 

Time:  A SMART goal has a time deadline. Each of your goals should have a time deadline attached to it.  Having a time deadline cuts off the thief of procrastination. Effective goals have an specific end time, a time in which you have set in order to achieve what it is that you want. Goal deadlines are great motivators because they move you into taking consistent and constructive action.

SMART: specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, time.

Get going.  Use the SMART system today.  Implementing Jim Rohn's SMART system in your goal setting routine will not only put you on the fast track toward achieving your success, but it will also help you to be encouraged and inspired as you achieve your heartfelt dreams and desires.



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5 Amazingly Simple Goal Setting Techniques

Goal setting techniques needn’t be a chore.  If you are passionate about changing the circumstances in your life and carving out a compelling an fulfilling lifestyle that you  have previously only dreamed about then its crucial to find the fastest and most direct route to get there.

Some years back as a newbie goal setter I came upon a goal setting system offered by personal development guru that was cumbersome, confusing, and in the end brought me to tears.  What I wanted was a few simple steps that I could apply in my life in an instant so that I can begin to to achieve immediate results.

What I discovered is that I didn’t need a fancy system or method for setting and achieving my heartfelt goals.  If you want a fast, simple, and more importantly effective goal setting method, all you need is a piece of paper and a written response to the five following goal setting steps:

1. Know exactly what you want.  Knowing what you want is like the key that starts the engine of your success mobile. Knowing what you want gives you clarity, direction and a purpose.
2. Write it down.  Writing your goal down on paper does several things but in a nutshell it lets your conscious and subconscious mind know that your serious. “Hey guys,” it says, “take a look at this! The boss wrote it down! This is important.”
3. Attach a reasonable deadline to your goal.  A goal set without a deadline is a dream.  Here is an example of how I attach deadlines to my goals that you may find helpful to you.  Before my written goal I write the following: “On or before date/month/year . . .”
4. Break your goal down into doable steps.  Personal development great Anthony Robbins calls this “chunking it down.”  I call this the “pizza pie” technique.  You cant (well at least I cant) sit down and eat a large, gooey, cheesy, pizza all in one bite.  You take it slice by slice.  Break your goal down into smaller steps.
5. Take effective action everyday.  This is where you take your broken down goal steps and go for it.  If you want to succeed in life you must take action and do what you need to do to get from where you are to where you want to be. 

Effective goal setting is an easy process and achievement of your goals begins when you follow the five simple techniques of goal setting presented above.  So go for it! Get your piece of paper out today, write down what you want, give it a deadline, break it up into steps, and go out there and make it happen!

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The Incredible Power of a Smile

This morning I had the opportunity to recognize the incredible power of a smile. As I stood in line at the supermarket I had the opportunity to admire a rosy cheeked baby who seemed fixated on my face. I couldn’t help myself - I smiled at him, and he instantly smiled back causing me to feel those familiar, warm, fuzzies in my heart.

Smiles are powerful things, and very contagious. As the other people around me noticed the child smiling his incredible, toothless grin, they began to smile as well, setting off a chain reaction of smiles by passerby’s. The sad truth however is that few people become aware of this simple mood lifter, and even fewer; ever take the time to smile on purpose.

In my own life I believe that I have gleaned a lot of valuable wisdom from being in the trenches of life. I feel privileged and honored as it seems that my life has been enriched with loads of great and memorable experiences even though there were a few difficult circumstances to deal with along the way. As a Transformational Spirituality teacher I have the honor of getting to know and of associating with a lot of really fun and interesting people, and I have been able to enjoy numerous hours of pleasure engaging with them and making fun memories with each of them in the process. I am happily married, I love my children, and I am vibrant and healthy.

Yet, perhaps like you, there are days in my life when I allow myself to become bombarded with negatives and all I want to do is to hide myself away somewhere and have a good cry. It’s on those rare days that I gratefully recollect the wisdom that my dad always gave me as a child. When I was having an off day he would say to me, 'Dar, remember, whatever happens today, don't forget to smile, because nothing is ever as bad as it seems.'

I've found my dad's advice extremely helpful on countless occasions as I encountered some of life's curve balls. I remember one Friday morning when I was ten. I ditched elementary school because I felt as if my life was about to end. My pet rat Rosie died the night before and I felt like I couldn’t face the world.　The pain was so great that my ten year old heart thought that I was going to die.

However, I felt better about Rosie's death later that evening after my girlfriend Barbie invited me to spend the night at her house for a pajama party. We watched cartoons, played games, and smiled and laughed as we read elephant jokes to one another. The smiles and laughter eased my broken heart.

I also remember a time when I was in high school and feeling as if my life ceased to have meaning. I was interested in student government, ran for class secretary, and I lost. I felt like a complete failure, and the feeling of rejection literally crushed me inside. Dad told me to keep my head up and to remember to smile, and he assured me that my life would turn out just fine even though I was not nominated.

Smiles are incredibly powerful. Here are some ways you can use the power of a smile in your own life:

• Practice smiling at yourself. In my present life, having gleaned the secret power behind a smile, I honor myself and my father by facing every day with a smile. No matter what I may be going through, the minute I greet my face in the bathroom mirror I smile at myself. Practicing smiling at yourself will also do wonders for your self-esteem.
• Look for the humor in life. One of the biggest things that have allowed me to face each day with a giant smile on my face is my pet children. My "kids" help me to keep my sense of humor and my internal laughter meter at 110 percent smiles.　 Especially my curious cat, T-Bone. My pet kids are always doing hilarious things that keep me laughing throughout the day, causing me to keep a smile on my face no matter how harried my day may be. Look for the humor in your life on a daily basis. Throughout the years I have trained myself to look for what is funny in various situations in my life, and I have found that there are a variety of ways that you can look for the humor in life. As an example, watch funny television shows and movies, go to comedy clubs, or read funny anecdotes and jokes.
• Smile for no reason at all, and more importantly, smile often. A smile can change your emotional state in an instant! Remember the warm fuzzies I told you about when the baby smiled at me in the market?　 Medical science has found that smiling activates certain neurotransmitters and hormones such as serotonin, which is often referred to as the "feel good" hormone.

Find reasons to activate the power of a smile in your own life starting today, and remember those words a very wise man shared with me so many years ago -　 'whatever happens today, don't forget to smile. Nothing is ever as bad as it seems.'

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Earl Nightingale’s Fool Proof Daily Action Plan

Earl Nightingale was one of American’s most revered pioneers of personal development, and a true self-help legend. Since Earl’s passing March 25th, 1989, Nightingale-Conant continues to be among the elite companies in the world offering personal development and self-development courses and workshops.  One of the greatest contributions of Mr. Nightingale shared with the world in terms of power packed productivity are his tips on how to maximize your day to day productivity through a daily action plan. 

“We are at our very best, and we are happiest, when we are fully engaged in work we enjoy on the journey toward the goal we've established for ourselves. It gives meaning to our time off and comfort to our sleep. It makes everything else in life so wonderful, so worthwhile,” says Earl Nightingale.

Earl Nightingale’s ideas about setting and achieving goals are simple, practical, and of course effective.  Per Earl, the number one rule in terms of creating a fool proof daily action plan was always  ‘first things first’.  He passionately modeled the sage wisdom of St. Francis of Assisi with abundant and lasting results, “Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”

Earl Nightingale’s Fool Proof Action Plan consists of the following four steps:

1.  Before you go to bed at night, make a written list of those things you need to do the next day in order of importance. 
2.  The next day focus on item number one of your list until it is done, mark it off, and then go to the next item.
3.  Learn to minimize distractions.
4.  Whatever you don’t get done – put at the top of your list tomorrow.

In the words of Earl Nightingale, “All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.”   Get into the success habit of not only creating a daily action plan but also dedicating yourself to complete each task on that plan to create not only compounding momentum towards achieving what it is that you want to achieve in life, but also lasting and compelling change in your life.
 

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4 Power Packed Tips to Help You to Crush Fear and Anxiety!

Some people have a difficult time managing their anxieties and fears, which often results in low self esteem and self-confidence. As a result, not only does low self esteem and low self-confidence carry over into other areas of your life such as in your career, and in your relationship with others, but it can also affect your motivation to carve out a life of success and achievement. This means that if you want to put your best foot forward in life and to be effective that you must learn to manage your fears and anxiety.

The truth is that you can decide to manage your fears and anxieties or you can let them manage you! To crush fear and anxiety you must choose to take control by facing your fears and breaking through them. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "You gain strength, courage and confidence by experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face."

Here are four valuable tips you can apply in your life starting today to help you effectively manage your fears and anxieties, and that will you to help to raise your self esteem:

1. Exercise patience and persistence with yourself. Remember that practice makes perfect. Whenever it comes to dealing with your anxieties or any other task; practice, patience, and persistence is the name of the game. If you don't get the desired results the first time around, then keep trying until you do get the results. Through practice, you will become better at the task at hand and your self-confidence will increase.

2. Use your fear and anxiety as a learning partner. In every anxiety related situation you experience, you can begin to look for and to learn what works, what doesn't work, and what you need to improve on in managing your fears and anxieties. When you do this your fears and anxieties not only become a useful learning tool, but also a helpful guide. Here is an example - you are at work and begin to experience a lot of anxiety, so you decide to take a walk to help you feel better, and it works. The walk eases your stress and refreshes your mind, your body, and your emotions. The next time you begin to feel anxious you can remind yourself that you got through it the last time by taking a walk. This then inspires you and gives you additional confidence that you can and will be able to manage your anxiety the next time it surfaces.

3. Mentally rehearse a positive outcome when facing situations that bring out your fear or anxiety. Sometimes, you can get anxious over a task that you will have to perform in the near future. When this happens, visualize yourself doing the task in your mind, and having a positive outcome. For example, you have to give a report at the next corporate meeting in front of a large group of people in the next few days. Before the big day comes, see yourself addressing the group in your mind. Mentally see your audience being interested and engaged in what you are saying. By rehearsing the event first in your mind, you will feel better prepared to perform when the real time comes. Visualization is a great way to reduce not only your fear, but also the stress of an up coming situation - and it also increases your self-confidence by leaps and bounds.

4. Pray for Divine guidance. Prayer is an incredibly powerful thing, so do don't forget to pray and ask for Divine assistance and strength especially when you are feeling fearful or stressed out about something. As a human being you can only do and handle so much, so roll the overload into the lap of Universal Source. Asking for spiritual guidance can give you additional insights and resources to help you manage your fears, and to increase your self-confidence.

Endeavor to apply the above four tips in your daily life on a regular basis and watch your anxiety and fear disappear! It may feel at times that handling your fear and anxiety is a difficult process, but remember that you and only you can make the decision of whether or not you take a stand and control your fears, or if you will let your fears control you!

"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain." ~ Frank Herbert

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The Creative Power of Thought, Part 2

Your thoughts have the power to create or to destroy. The outer conditions in your life are a result of your most dominate thoughts.

Here is part 2 of The Creative Power of Thought, excerpted from the New Thought Classic book, The Dore Lectures on Mental Science, by Thomas Troward:

The Creative Power of Thought, Part 2.

Now we can go a step further and see how this power in ourselves can be perpetuated and intensified. By the nature of the creative process your mind is itself a thought of the Parent Mind; so, as long as this thought of the Universal Mind subsists, you will subsist, for you are it. But so long as you think this thought it continues to subsist, and necessarily remains present in the Divine Mind, thus fulfilling the logical conditions required for the perpetuation of the individual life. A poor analogy of the process may be found in a self-influencing dynamo where the magnetism generates the current and the current intensifies the magnetism with the result of producing a still stronger current until the limit of saturation is reached; only in the substantive infinitude of the Universal Mind and the potential infinitude of the Individual Mind there is no limit of saturation. Or we may compare the interaction of the two minds to two mirrors, a great and a small one, opposite each other, with the word "Life" engraved on the large one. Then, by the law of reflection, the word "Life" will also appear on the image of the smaller mirror reflected in the greater. Of course these are only very imperfect analogies; but if you car once grasp the idea of your own individuality as a thought in the Divine Mind which is able to perpetuate itself by thinking of itself as the thought which it is, you have got at the root of the whole matter, and by the same process you will not only perpetuate your life but will also expand it.

When we realize this on the one hand, and on the other that all external conditions, including the body, are produced by thought, we find ourselves standing between two infinites, the infinite of Mind and the infinite of Substance—from both of which we can draw what we will, and mould specific conditions out of the Universal Substance by the Creative Power which we draw in from the Universal Mind. But we must recollect that this is not by the force of personal will upon the substance, which is an error that will land us in all sorts of inversion, but by realizing our mind as a channel through which the Universal Mind operates upon substances in a particular way, according to the mode of thought which we are seeking to embody. If, then, our thought is habitually concentrated upon principles rather than on particular things, realizing that principles are nothing else than the Divine Mind in operation, we shall find that they will necessarily germinate to produce their own expression in corresponding facts, thus verifying the words of the Great Teacher, "Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you."

But we must never lose sight of the reason for the creative power of our thought, that it is because our mind is itself a thought of the Divine Mind, and that consequently our increase in livingness and creative power must be in exact proportion to our perception of our relation to the Parent Mind. In such considerations as these is to be found the philosophical basis of the Bible doctrine of "Sonship," with its culmination in the conception of the Christ. These are not mere fancies but the expression of strictly scientific principles, in their application to the deepest problems of the individual life; and their basis is that each one's world, whether in or out of the flesh, must necessarily be created by his own consciousness, and, in its turn, his mode of consciousness will necessarily take its colour front his conception of his relation to the Divine Mind—to the exclusion of light and colour, if he realizes no Divine Mind, and to their building up into forms of beauty in proportion as he realizes his identity of being with that All-Originating Spirit which is Light, Love, and Beauty in itself. Thus the great creative work of Thought in each of us is to make us consciously "sons and daughters of the Almighty," realizing that by our divine origin we can never be really separated from the Parent Mind which is continually seeking expression through us, and that any apparent separation is due to our own misconception of the true nature of the inherent relation between the Universal and the Individual. This is the lesson which the Great Teacher has so luminously out before us in the parable of the Prodigal Son.


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The Creative Power of Thought, Part 1

The power of your mind to create and direct your thoughts is a magnificent gift. Through the popularization of the Law of Attraction more people are paying greater attention to what they are thinking and manifesting in their lives.

In the New Thought Classic book, The Dore Lectures on Mental Science, by Thomas Troward, you are given an insightful glimpse on the creative power of thought, what it is, and how you can use it.

The Creative Power of Thought, Part 1.

One of the great axioms in the new order of ideas, of which I have spoken, is that our Thought possesses creative power, and since the whole superstructure depends on this foundation, it is well to examine it carefully. Now the starting point is to see that Thought, or purely mental action, is the only possible source from which the existing creation could ever have come into manifestation at all, and it is on this account that in the preceding addresses I have laid stress on the origin of the cosmos. It is therefore not necessary to go over this ground again, and we will start this morning's enquiry on the assumption that every manifestation is in essence the expression of a Divine Thought. This being so, our own mind is the expression of a Divine Thought. The Divine Thought has produced something which itself is capable of thinking; but the question is whether its thinking has the same creative quality as that of the Parent Mind.

Now by the very hypothesis of the case the whole Creative Process consists in the continual pressing so forward of the Universal Spirit for expression through the individual and particular, and Spirit in its different modes is therefore the Life and Substance of the universe. Hence it follows that if there is to be an expression of thinking power it can only be by expressing the same thinking power which subsists latent in the Originating Spirit. If it were less than this it would only be some sort of mechanism and would not be thinking power, so that to be thinking power at all it must be identical in kind with that of the Originating Spirit. It is for this reason that man is said to be created in the image and likeness of God; and if we realize that it is impossible for him to be otherwise, we shall find a firm foundation from which to draw many important deductions.

But if our thought possesses this creative power, why are we hampered by adverse conditions? The answer is, because hitherto we have used our power invertedly. We have taken the starting point of our thought from external facts and consequently created a repetition of facts of a similar nature, and so long as we do this we must needs go on perpetuating the old circle of limitation. And, owing to the sensitiveness of the subconscious mind to suggestion—(See Edinburgh Lectures, chapter V.)—we are subject to a very powerful negative influence from those who are unacquainted with affirmative principles, and thus race-beliefs and the thought-currents of our more immediate environment tend to consolidate our own inverted thinking. It is therefore not surprising that the creative power of our thought, thus used in a wrong direction, has produced the limitations of which we complain. The remedy, then, is by reversing our method of thinking, and instead of taking external facts as our starting point, taking the inherent nature of mental power as our starting point. We have already gained two great steps in this direction, first by seeing that the whole manifested cosmos could have had its origin nowhere but in mental power, and secondly by realizing that our own mental power must be the same in kind with that of the Originating Mind.

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The Power of Patience and Persistence

I watched this afternoon as a young child waited patiently with his mother in a crowded Costco line for 20 minutes - for a slice of pizza, and I was impressed. When I was his age I had very little patience. If I wanted something, I wanted it then, and I wanted now.

This sort of “I want it now, now, now!” attitude stuck with me as I graduated from college causing my now ex-husband and I to drain our savings and our credit cards in order to enjoy a lifestyle that was way beyond our means. In the end our impatience to have it right now cost us a good credit score and resulted in filing for bankruptcy, notwithstanding a divorce a few years later.

Although it was a painful situation at the time I learned a valuable lesson and emerged wiser and with a more appreciative view of the power of patience and persistence.

Of course I know that I am not the only I’m not the only one with an “I want it, and I want it now!” mentality. People of all ages fall into this category of either wanting it all now, or wanting it without having to work for it. Impatience is costly. Not only can it lead to debt and start a cycle of unnecessary consumption and lifestyle inflation, but also impatience robs you of your drive and passion to enjoy the journey of progressive success and accomplishment.

The Power of Patience and Persistence

Of course, patience alone and persistence doesn’t always guarantee success in any particular area of your life, but it definitely increases your odds. Here are just a few of the ways patience can help you achieve your heartfelt goals:

• Patience and persistence allows you to not only notice opportunities but also to take advantage of them. I am sure you have heard the expression, ‘good things happen to those who wait.’ If you’re willing to forge the successful life you have always dreamed of step-by-step, instead of trying to force it, you will encounter opportunities that you may have overlooked if you were trying to sloppily rush towards achieving your goals.
• Patience and persistence increases your self-esteem. If you are really passionate about wanting to achieve something in your life, you will take pride in the process. I don’t know about you, but my heart soars as I focus on my daily action plan of success. With each step of my accomplishment not only does my self-discipline increase, but also my confidence in completing my project, as well as my self-esteem.
• Patience and persistence helps you to focus on what is important in life. In my experience, and perhaps in yours as well, I have noticed that as I age, my values change. Patience and persistence allows you to assess those things that really matter to you, and to practice focusing on those things and enjoying them. It is the pull of the pleasure of consistently pursuing your goals, spending quality time with the people you love, and just plain enjoying the beauty of life that keeps you engaged in life today – not the allure of climbing the corporate ladder.
• Patience and persistence keeps you focused on your goal. By utilizing a simple plan of action, patience and persistence keeps you disciplined and focused on what needs to be done next in terms of achieving your dream or goal. It means focusing on first things first, and not on those things that are either time wasters, or those things that have nothing to do with your goal at all. It means living your life your way by keeping your eyes focused on the prize of achievement.

The power of patience and persistence go hand in hand. If you can learn the value of patience and persistence, the world will open up to you. Remember, anything worth achieving in life is worth taking your time to do it in such a way that you enjoy all of the virtues of your focused passion, and keeping at it until you get your desired result. Benjamin Franklin once said, “He that can have patience, can have what he wills.”

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