Sunday, May 27, 2012

I had the rare opportunity to have tea with my teacher Chetsang Xian Rinposhe. As we sat, sipped tea, and engaged in conversation, I asked him the following question. “Teacher, if you had one success tip to share with the world what would that be?”  

True to my beloved teachers character and style he answered me by first sharing the following story:

There is an ancient story about two monks who sought to achieve enlightenment at a well-known monastery.  The first monk, named Druki, did not like to share his knowledge with others, but the second monk, named Chiko, shared his knowledge with everyone who would listen.

Druki  thought, “If I share my knowledge on achieving the path of enlightenment with the others, they will become my competitor in the monastery”. But Chiko thought differently, remembering the Buddha’s teachings that, “To give is to gain”. 

Druki was puzzled by Chiko’s actions as he noticed that he spent much of his time answering his fellow monk’s questions about his experience on the path towards enlightenment. Yet never did Druki hear Chiko complain and say, “I am wasting my time answering the questions of my brothers”.

One day, out of curiosity, Druki asked Chiko why he spent the majority of his time sharing his knowledge with the other monks. To which Chiko simply answered by saying, “To give is to gain”.

“What does that mean?” asked Druki. 

“It means,” answered Chiko, “that anytime I answer a question, I sharpen my knowledge”.

But Druki did not understand and thought, “How silly. How can he sharpen his knowledge, and what has that to do with the path of enlightenment?”

Not soon after his encounter with Druki, Chiko achieved the state of enlightenment; and he was greatly revered by the other monks for he achieved so much in so little time.  It was only then that Druki understood that; to give knowledge is to gain knowledge. 

At the end of the story Xian Rinposhe said this, “As the knife that is constantly sharpened loses its effectiveness, so is knowledge gleaned that is not shared. The greatest success tip of all time then is to share what you know with others.” 

Master Xian’s answer had a profound effect on me, causing me to contemplate the value of sharing what you know with others, instead of selfishly hoarding it.  I began to realize that knowledge freely shared is like a Cosmic ripple, evolving not only the consciousness of the teacher but also the student.                                           

There is an ancient proverb that says, “The tribute to learning is teaching.” When you share your knowledge with other people you receive back that knowledge with a deeper understanding of its intrinsic meaning; and this type of clarity is power.

Sharing your knowledge with others increases their experience and wisdom, and that new found wisdom broadens not only the student’s perspective on the subject, but also the teachers perspective as well. 

Learning something new increases the student’s joy, enthusiasm, and zest for life.  This excitement and passion is contagious and carries over from the student to the teacher.
Take some time today to find ways you can share what you know with others. Teach a class, write an article, create a blog or podcast. As you share your knowledge and experience with others, you will find that you want to share even more. Sharing your knowledge with others is a way of  ‘paying it forward’. 

Everyone has a unique and transferrable form of wisdom to pass onto to others, and freely sharing that wisdom creates a lasting legacy for both teacher and student.  “Share your knowledge with others,” says  His Holiness the Dalai Lama. “It is a way to achieve immortality.”

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Friday, May 25, 2012

Do you set your standards high, but always feel like you've failed? Learn about the 3 "P's" and end the vicious cycle that keeps you stuck and ineffective.

The Vicious Cycle

Perfectionism, procrastination, and paralysis - one often leads to the next, in a vicious cycle, especially on large, long-term projects with no clear deadlines. Let's look at each part of this cycle, and explore some concrete steps that you can take to disrupt the cycle.

Perfectionism

Perfectionism can be defined as striving towards impossibly high goals. Perfectionists are caught in a trap, they can never be good enough. They engage in rigid, black or white thinking about their own performance, if it isn't perfect, it's horrible.

Ironically, perfectionists often achieve a product that is far less than perfect. At times, their performance is mediocre. In contrast, those who aim at more realistic goals can outperform the perfectionists. How can this be? The procrastination and paralysis that results from overly high standards causes the perfectionist to wait until it's too late, then rush to do something; anything. The more relaxed realist, in the meantime, is able to put an effort in earlier, over a more prolonged period of time, with more chance to let time and subsequent changes or editing improve the final product.

Procrastination

When you believe that your next project should set the world on fire, you are setting yourself up for failure. At some level you know that this level of achievement is unlikely. You lose your energy and excitement for your project.

On a football field, when the coach yells at the team that they are a bunch of @$#% for playing so poorly, the players may play better. That is because they are enraged at being humiliated and they can use the rage to batter their opponents. This doesn't not work in other spheres! Criticism, whether from your boss or your own inner critical audience slows you down, and interferes with your thinking process.

It is so easy to put off the next step of your project when thinking about it makes you experience unpleasant feelings. So you procrastinate. "I'll get started tomorrow, and work twice as hard." But it's hard for you to ignore the fact that you are not living up to your own high expectations for yourself. "I'm lazy." "I have no will power." As time goes on, you start to grind to a halt.

That leads to the third "P." Paralysis You do absolutely nothing on the very project that is most important to you. This is devastating for your self-esteem, and very discouraging. It's hard to plan your next project when you failed to complete your last one.

How to Avoid the 3 "P's" There are steps that you can take to avoid falling into the vicious cycle of the 3 "P's":


  • Become aware of the perfectionist audience voices in your head (no, you're not crazy.) You can't learn to ignore them if you don't know that they're talking to you.
  • Learn how to answer them back (don't do it out loud or people will think you're crazy.) An example would be, “OK it's not my best work but at least I'm finishing it.”
  • Look for role models who are satisfied with "good enough." Note how they get things done and are not looked down on by others.
  • Set up realistic goals. One way to tell if a goal is realistic is if you can actually do it. For example, "Read two articles and write for 15 minutes before 5:00 tonight" is a realistic goal. "Read two articles and write for 6 hours and write 10 pages before 5:00 tonight" is not a realistic goal.
  • If you have reached the third "P," drastic steps are needed. Talk to a trusted friend, find a "project buddy," or seek coaching. Do Not Give Up. It is very possible to get yourself out of the paralyzed state and back to productivity with just a little help.

  • A Final "P." Or Maybe Two Productivity Start with baby steps. Do a little every day. As you observe your own productivity, however small it may be, you will start to feel better about yourself. You were capable all along – it's just that your unrealistic expectations stopped you from functioning optimally. Eventually your productivity will start to look like Progress. And that's the last "P" for today.

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    Wednesday, May 23, 2012

    In the Law of Attraction there are many fine points in the application of Universal Law that people tend to overlook. One of these often neglected Universal Laws is the power of gratitude. Harnessing the power of gratitude will not only give you the ability to enjoy the process of manifesting more, but also the capability to reap avalanches of abundance and prosperity!


    "God has two dwellings: one in heaven, and the other in a thankful heart." ~ Izaak Walton

    When you have a thankful heart you become a magnetic force of Universal Law, and will become a receiving station for unlimited success in your life. But in order to unlock this magnificent force, you must first understand how the power of gratitude governs the Universal Laws at your fingertips.

    How then can an attitude of gratitude unlock your unlimited potential to succeed? The 3 Golden Rules of The Power of Gratitude state the following:

    1. Gratitude activates the Law of Attraction. Gratitude sets the law of attraction in rapid motion in your life. The Law of Attraction states that "like energy attracts like energy". Your thoughts and emotions are energy vibrations. Thoughts of gratitude cause a myriad of positive thoughts and emotions to occur inside of you each time you express your heartfelt gratefulness. And when you express gratitude for the people and circumstances in your life you draw more of this positive energy into your life.

    2. Gratitude allows you to recognize and to appreciate all the good in your life. Complacency is the biggest killer of passion, and thus dreams. It is very easy to take your good fortune for granted and instead focus on acquiring the 'new and better' in your life. The mere act of expressing your gratefulness to the Universe, to other people, to the world - allows you to not only recognize the many blessings in your life, but also to enjoy and appreciate those things.

    3. Gratitude allows you to experience more prosperity and abundance. When you focus on, actively enjoy, and appreciate your money and your pocessions, you draw into your life even more abundance and financial prosperity. And the more you enjoy, delight in, and pay attention to the prosperity and abundance in your life, the more you will manifest more in amazing, fun, and sometimes seemingly miraculous ways.

    The bottom line is that you always get what you consistently focus your thoughts and emotions on. Unlock the power of gratitude in your life starting right now by taking the time each day to give thanks for all the good you experience in your life, and enjoy the things you have right now. When you do this you will activite the floodgates of prosperity and abundance and begin to easily, and effortlessly, live the life of your wildest dreams!


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    Monday, May 21, 2012

    The Ahh Meditation, or Japa meditation is not only a great way to calm the mind and release stress, but also is a very effective way to manifest the life dreams and desires that are important to you.

    I first came across this method for meditation through a seminar I attended hosted by Wayne Dyer, who was given the technique by spiritual teacher and mystic Baba Sri Siva.

    What exactly is Japa meditation? Japa meditation is the repetition of the sound of "Ahh!" which is said to be the universal sound found in the various names of God from all spiritual traditions. For example: Allah, Krishna, God, Buddha, Ra. Each one of these names for God holds the sound of Ahh.

    Think about how you use this sound in everyday life. When you find something pleasing you might express your feelings with a satisfying Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!

    According to Wayne Dyer's teacher, Sri Siva, when you do this meditation process for manifesting there is no lag time. Results happen immediately. Personally, I have had many experiences with this meditation technique where I found this to be true.

    Here is Sri Siva's process on how to do Japa mediation for manifesting:

    1. Think of something you really want or need to have happen. New job, divinely satisfying love life, superb health, more clients, more money etc. Be specific. If you want more clients for example,be specific in how many more clients want.

    2. Imagine a column in the center of your body starting at your root chakra (approximately the spot between your anus and genitals -- the point where your body is touching a seat cushion when you are sitting) and at the top end of this imagined column is your 3rd eye chakra, which is between and slightly above your eyes.

    3. Close your eyes and say the sound "Aaaaaaaaah" out loud while imagining the sound traveling upward from the root chakra to the 3rd eye chakra. It may seem strange at first, but try to extend the length of the sound Aaaaah for as long as comfortable. As you do this, turn your eyeballs upward slightly and imagine the intended goal in your mind's eye, picturing the goal like a movie, as if projected in front of you onto an imagined movie screen from your third eye chakra. It is important that this mind picture of your goal be as if you have already achieved what it is that you want. Using our previous example of getting more clients a great visualization would be seeing yourself smiling and shaking the new clients hands. If you have trouble visualizing, just allow yourself to 'feel' how you would feel if you were already doing, being, or having what it is that you want.

    To see if this manifesting technique is right for you I recommend that you commit to do this once a day for two weeks merely as an experiment, to see for yourself if this is useful. You could do this for 15 to 20 minutes (with a timer), or say Aaaah 108 times with a mala (a string of 108 beads for counting), or just do the sound until you feel like you've done enough for each day. Better yet, get the cd or audiotape of Wayne Dyer's "Meditations for Manifesting" and follow along!


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    Friday, April 13, 2012

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    Love is like flower which blooms at least once in everybody's life, this is the time when one feels on the seventh heaven and ninth cloud. When you fall in love it is very obvious you would like to express or pour your heart out for the one who rules your heart.

    The following famous love quotes express the deepest feeling which mere words cannot do it. These can be added in your love letters, can be sent as a text message through your cell phone, and can definitely shoot Cupid's arrow to the one whom you are madly in love with.

    Love is such an expression which has no restriction of age. Anybody can express their love either a teenager to his girlfriend or an eighty year old man to his wife. One person in love can understand another person's feeling and the emotions he is going through and these emotions give birth to love quotes and speak volume of about those who are enjoying this bliss. A lot is written about different subject like life, happiness, sorrows, death, vices and virtues but what remains the favorite throughout the ages is the subject love.

    "At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet" is a famous love quote by Plato it is very true as and when the person falls in love all his feelings come out in the form of poem. Love quotes can be in any language but the feeling remains the same.

    It is not easy to define love but these quotes describe every mood of it. I agree with Henry Ward Beecher when he says, "I never knew how to worship until I knew how to love".

    Some quotes are elaborate and have the complete essence of the expression of love. Like Houssaye says "tell me whom you love and I will tell you who are you" the person to whom you love show the kind of person you are.

    "Love is like a mustard seed; planted by God and watered by men." This quote depicts the intense feeling and his involvement in love and maturity to understand this feeling.

    While some quotes are very zesty and striking. "I was nauseous and tingly all over. I was either in love or I had smallpox." - Woody Allen

    It doesn't matter if you are newly fallen in love or bask in the glory and passion of love you can include such quotes either in your love letters, e-cards, or valentine cards and show those whom you love how much you cherish and value the love you have for them.

    There are even some great quotes with the tinge of humor, which gives an opportunity for both the lover and the beloved to smile while bringing more joy and fun into your relationship:

    "I married the first man I ever kissed. "When I tell this to my children, they just about throw up." - Barbara Bush.

    "We don't believe in rheumatism and true love until after the first attack." - Marie E. Eschenbach.

    "Gravitation can not be held responsible for people falling in love." - Albert Einstein

    I dont know about you, but love moves and informs my world, and I am always looking for creative ways and words to express my love to those important to me. Spice up your relationship by using some great love quotes such as these and perhaps even present them with a boquet of roses! Now thats LOVE!


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    Wednesday, April 11, 2012

    [Part two of Monday's insightful post on conscious awakening. Enjoy . . .]

    Question: The yogis say that one must renounce this world and go off into secluded jungles if one wishes to find the truth.

    Ramana Maharshi: The life of action need not be renounced. If you meditate for an hour or two every day you can then carry on with your duties. If you meditate in the right manner then the current of mind induced will continue to flow even in the midst of your work. It is as though there were two ways of expressing the same idea; the same line which you take in meditation will be expressed in your activities.

    Question: What will be the result of doing that?

    Ramana Maharshi: As you go on you will find that your attitude towards people, events and objects gradually changes. Your actions will tend to follow your meditations of their own accord.

    Question: Then you do not agree with the yogis?

    Ramana Maharshi: A man should surrender the personal selfishness which binds him to this world. Giving up the false self is the true renunciation.

    Question: How is it possible to become selfless while leading a life of worldly activity?

    Ramana Maharshi: There is no conflict between work and wisdom.

    Question: Do you mean that one can continue all the old activities in one’s profession, for instance, and at the same time get enlightenment?

    Ramana Maharshi: Why not? But in that case one will not think that it is the old personality which is doing the work, because ones consciousness will gradually become transferred until it is centered in that which is beyond the little self.

    Question: If a person is engaged in work, there will be little time left for him to meditate.

    Ramana Maharshi: Setting apart time for meditation is only for the merest spiritual novices. A man who is advancing will begin to enjoy the deeper beatitude whether he is at work or not. While his hands are in society, he keeps his head cool in solitude.

    Question: Then you do not teach the way of yoga?

    Ramana Maharshi:  The yogi tries to drive his mind to the goal, as a cowherd drives a bull with a stick, but on this path the seeker coaxes the bull by holding out a handful of grass.

    Question: How is that done?

    Ramana Maharshi: You have to ask yourself the Question `Who am I ?' This investigation will lead in the end to the discovery of something within you which is behind the mind. Solve that great problem and you will solve all other problems.

    Question: Why is concentration ineffective?

    Ramana Maharshi: To ask the mind to kill the mind is like making the thief the policeman. He will go with you and pretend to catch the thief, but nothing will be gained. So you must turn inward and see from where the mind rises and then it will cease to exist.

    Question: In turning the mind inwards, are we not still employing the mind?

    Ramana Maharshi: Of course we are employing the mind. It is well known and admitted that only with the help of the mind can the mind be killed. But instead of setting about saying there is a mind, and I want to kill it, you begin to seek the source of the mind, and you find the mind does not exist at all. The mind, turned outwards, results in thoughts and objects. Turned inwards, it becomes itself the Self.

    Question: How can I tell if I am making progress with my inquiry?

    Ramana Maharshi: The degree of the absence of thoughts is the measure of your progress towards Self-realization. But Self-realization itself does not admit of progress, it is ever the same. The Self remains always in realization. The obstacles are thoughts. Progress is measured by the degree of removal of the obstacles to understanding that the Self is always realized. So thoughts must be checked by seeking to whom they arise. So you go to their source, where they do not arise. 

    Question: Doubts are always arising. Hence my Question.

    Ramana Maharshi: A doubt arises and is cleared. Another arises and that is cleared, making way for yet another; and so it goes on. So there is no possibility of clearing away all doubts. See to whom the doubts arise. Go to their source and abide in it. Then they cease to arise. That is how doubts are to be cleared.

    Source: from book "Be As You Are" by David Godman


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    Monday, April 9, 2012

    I don't know about you, but I like to cut to the chase - get to the point of the matter as quickly as I can. Often however, when it comes to conscious awakening, you must let time and reflection be your guide. I won't leave you high and dry however – following are some excerpts on conscious awakening given by whom I consider to be one of my spiritual teachers, Ramana Maharashi.

    In this excerpt you will find actual questions by spiritual seekers just like you and I who were seeking to find the somewhat illusive path to spiritual awakening. I have found these questions and answers particularly beneficial in my own spiritual understanding and practice. Enjoy . . .

    Question: You say one can realize the Self by a search for it. What is the character of this search?

    Ramana Maharshi: You are the mind or think that you are the mind. The mind is nothing but thoughts. Now behind every particular thought there is a general thought, which is the `I', that is yourself. Let us call this `I' the first thought. Stick to this `I'-thought and Question it to find out what it is. When this Question takes strong hold on you, you cannot think of other thoughts.

    Question: When I do this and cling to myself, that is, the `I'-thought, other thoughts come and go, but I say to myself `Who am I ?' and there is no answer forthcoming. To be in this condition is the practice. Is it so?

    Ramana Maharshi: This is a mistake that people often make. What happens when you make a serious quest for the Self is that the `I'-thought disappears and something else from the depths takes hold of you and that is not the `I' which commenced the quest.

    Question: What is this something else?

    Ramana Maharshi: That is the real Self, the import of `I'. It is not the ego. It is the Supreme Being itself.

    Question: But you have often said that one must reject other thoughts when one begins the quest but the thoughts are endless. If one thought is rejected, another comes and there seems to be no end at all.

    Ramana Maharshi: I do not say that you must go on rejecting thoughts. Cling to yourself, that is, to the `I'-thought. When your interest keeps you to that single idea, other thoughts will automatically get rejected and they will vanish.

    Question: And so rejection of thoughts is not necessary?

    Ramana Maharshi: No. It may be necessary for a time or for some. You fancy that there is no end if one goes on rejecting every thought when it rises. It is not true, there is an end. If you are vigilant and make a stern effort to reject every thought when it rises you will soon find that you are going deeper and deeper into your own inner self. At that level it is not necessary to make an effort to reject thoughts.

    Question: Then it is possible to be without effort, without strain.

    Ramana Maharshi: Not only that, it is impossible for you to make an effort beyond a certain extent.

    Question: I want to be further enlightened. Should I try to make no effort at all?

    Ramana Maharshi: Here it is impossible for you to be without effort. When you go deeper, it is impossible for you to make any effort.  If the mind becomes introverted through inquiry into the source of aham-vritti, the vasanas become extinct. The light of the Self falls on the vasanas and produces the phenomenon of reflection we call the mind. Thus, when the vasanas become extinct the mind also disappears, being absorbed into the light of the one reality, the Heart. This is the sum and substance of all that an aspirant needs to know. What is imperatively required of him is an earnest and one pointed inquiry into the source of the aham-vritti.

    Question: How should a beginner start this practice?

    Ramana Maharshi: The mind will subside only by means of the inquiry `Who am I?' The thought 'Who am I?', destroying all other thoughts, will itself finally be destroyed like the stick used for stirring the funeral pyre. If other thoughts rise one should, without attempting to complete them, inquire `To whom did they rise?' What does it matter however many thoughts rise? At the very moment that each thought rises, if one vigilantly inquires `To whom did this rise?', it will be known `To me'. If one then inquires `Who am I?', the mind will turn back to its source [the Self] and the thought which had risen will also subside. By repeatedly practicing thus, the power of the mind to abide in its source increases.

    Although tendencies towards sense-objects [vishaya vasanas], which have been recurring down the ages, rise in countless numbers like the waves of the ocean, they will all perish as meditation on one?s nature becomes more and more intense. Without giving room even to the doubting thought, `Is it possible to destroy all these tendencies [vasanas] and to remain as Self alone?', one should persistently cling fast to self-attention.

    As long as there are tendencies towards sense-objects in the mind, the inquiry `Who am I ?' is necessary. As and when thoughts rise, one should annihilate all of them through inquiry then and there in their very place of origin. Not attending to what-is-other [anya] is non-attachment [vairagya] or desirelessness [nirasa]. Not leaving Self is knowledge [jnana]. In truth, these two [desirelessness and knowledge] are one and the same. Just as a pearl-diver, tying a stone to his waist, dives into the sea and takes the pearl lying at the bottom, so everyone, diving deep within himself with non-attachment, can attain the pearl of Self. If one resorts uninterruptedly to remembrance of one?s real nature [swarupasmarana] until one attains Self, that alone will be sufficient.

    Inquiring `Who am I that is in bondage?' and knowing ones real nature [swarupa] alone is liberation. Always keeping the mind fixed in Self alone is called 'self-inquiry', whereas meditation [dhyana] is thinking oneself to be the absolute [Brahman], which is existence-consciousness-bliss [sat-chit-ananda].

    Source: From book "Be As You Are", compiled by David Goodman


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    Sunday, April 8, 2012

    Have you ever had the experience of meeting someone for the first time and being totally being captivated by their personal magnetism and excitement for life?  These types of people create an instant good impression on you and as a result become memorable.

    Being a memorable person means be an unforgettable person.  And it doesn’t take a genius to recognize the advantage of developing an extraordinary pleasing persona in relation to your business and career, as well as with your everyday personal relationships.
     
    The wonderful thing is that is that you can hack the learning curve in developing your personal magnetism and charisma by applying a few overlooked strategies in your everyday personal interactions with everyone you come into contact with. 

    Cesar Pavese once said said, “We do not remember days, we remember moments.”

    How then can you become the type of person that creates memorable moments; a person who is compelling and charismatic?  Here a few useful and effective ways to get you started:

    Live with passion!  A memorable person enjoys life and living, and shares that passion in everything he or she does, or says. Their body language, words, and expressions are those of enthusiasm and joy, and that zeal radiates out to everyone they come into contact with. 

    This type of fervor is contagious, and shifts people’s emotional state to one of positive receptivity.  Modern psychology teaches that the most effective form of influence is learning how to shift and control a person’s emotional state.  The easiest way to do this is to make sure that you lead first with the positive and uplifting emotional state that you would like others to respond to.

    Be a great listener.  Being a great listener means genuinely becoming interested in other people.  Years ago, when I was a young attorney attempting to procure clients I did what most newbie business men and women do – I read books and attended courses that would help me to increase my bottom line.  One of the books I read was the classic by Dale Carnegie, “How to Win Friends and Influence People.”  One of the chapters shares this important point of becoming sincerely interested in people. Carnegie states that one of the first ways to do this is by learning to be a great listener. 
    I decided to put this insightful tip to the test one night as I met a potential client for dinner.  This client was dubbed ‘the geezer grouch’ by some of my colleagues who were unsuccessful in acquiring his business. 

    Usually I was the one who led and controlled the conversation, but on this particular night I decided to just listen and ask questions. The results I had were absolutely shocking. 

    My potential client, an older gentleman, was a successful business manufacturer who owned several manufacturing plants throughout the country.  I began our dinner by asking him a simple question – ‘how did you get interested in your type of work?’ 

    Three hours seemed to vanish as this gentleman shared with me a fascinating rag to riches story, gave me some valuable tips on business success, shared with me the titles of some great self-improvement books, and in the end not only did this gentleman become one of my regular clients, but also sent to me several lucrative referrals.  At the end of our dinner he shook my hand and told me, ‘you know you are a great conversationalist’ – yet all I had done throughout our entire meal was to listen and ask him questions!

    Share your adventures with others, tell a great story.  People have been telling and listening to stories since the dawn of time. And people love to hear stories that encourage, inspire, and motivate them.  Everyone remembers a great story.

    When you share your stories with other people you become memorable because stories keep people engaged in the moment by moment drama.  Professional speaker Patricia Fripp says, “Stories are the creative conversion of life itself, into a more powerful, clearer, more meaningful experience.”  Great stories move, entertain, instruct, and inspire people to increase the quality of their lives.

    I have a journal and I enjoy recording things that I encountered during the day that were funny, motivating, inspiring, encouraging, or that have emotionally moved me in some way.  These experiences are either personally observed or personally experienced; but they always have a positive outcome. 
    Share your great life stories with others. But here is one caveat, people want to hear stories about the fabulous, and if you want to be memorable and to influence others you need to omit stories of failure unless they have a positive outcome.

    Being a memorable person means being an influential person.  Groom your personal magnetism and charisma daily by applying these effective strategies in your interpersonal relationships until they become a habit.  You will not only find your sphere of influence increasing each day, but also find that your life is more interesting, personally enriched, and financially prosperous as well.

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    Friday, April 6, 2012

    Recent events in my life have taught me that the best thing to do in any situation is just to love people. How can I be a better friend, a better daughter, son, brother or sister, etc.? So often we go through life and we don't really take the time to just simply love people.

    For example I hop on a bus, I've got all this time to take interest in other people, but yet I just sit by myself, and pass the time, just wondering what others are up to. Most likely someone will come on the bus, and then something about them will set an emotion off inside of me, and I will be quick to judge them. For example: "What is up with her dressing like that?"

    If you can relate to me in this way, I've realized that love is the answer. Love. What is love?

    Love is patient, Love is kind, It does not envy, it does not boast, It is not proud, It is not rude, It is not self-seeking, It is not easily angered, It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not celebrate evil, but celebrates with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. Love never fails.

    Now if quoting The Storyteller in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 isn't going to do it for you . . . What really is love and what does it look like?

    Love is genuine: "Don't just pretend that you love others. Really love them," The Storyteller says.

    Love is taking a moment to talk to the person sitting next to you on the bus, taking an honest interest in their life. Love is offering your seat to someone who is standing. Love is saying a prayer for the people riding with you, asking Source to bless them. Love doesn't mean soley a physical response to those around you, such as holding hands or kissing the guy sitting next to you.

    I've started to see in my life that as I open up to people with love, that my life began to change in amazing ways. I heard a story about a highschool girl walking home one day from school. She was terribly depressed and down on life. She was ready to commit suicide when she arrived home, as she felt that she has just had enough of this present lifetime.

    Suddenly, out of no where, a classmate who had never spoken to her, comes up and asks if he can carry her books, and walk with her. Because of the love expressed by that boy, she didn't go home and commit suicide and instead found new meaning in her life.

    We think of saving lives as the stuff of firefighters and police officers. But stop and think - what about that boy? Was he not a lifesaver? Perhaps he didn't boldly enter a burning building or stop a fire, but he did take the time to love.

    So, what is keeping you from taking the time to stop and to show love to others more?

    My first response was, and the one that I hear from most people was this: I'm too busy, or I love enough already. I would say however, that if you honestly took some time to answer that question you would have the same response as I had which is this - I'm not too busy. I just manage my time badly. I'm riding the bus anyways. Why not love the guy sitting next to me. I love enough already. There is never a time or a place in your life that you will love enough.

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    Wednesday, April 4, 2012

    Before I share with you the simple, yet somewhat shocking truth about how to increase your productivity, take a look at the following questions to see how you fare.

    Have you ever spent valuable minutes, hours and perhaps in some cases, even days searching for something you misplaced?

    Have you ever argued with a loved one or scolded them for misplacing something of his or hers?

    Have you ever missed a important date or an appointment because you forgot?

    Have you ever been halfway to your destination and remembered you didn't bring what you needed?

    Do you have piles of papers scattered on your desk or around the house, or have a stack of unopened and opened mail that you will get to someday?

    Do you have that nagging notion constantly telling you to get organized?

    Do you find yourself reading books and/or articles on how to get organized?

    Have you purchased organizational tools to help you stay on top of things and then never used them?

    If you answered yes to even one of these questions you are most likely not organized to the point you would like to be. I have a very simple solution to this problem. This is a tried and proven method to get you organized and eliminate all that wasted time spent trying to get organized. You can read as many books on the subject of organization as you want, and buy all of the tools, but you only need one thing. Let me share with you a little secret.

    If you are serious about increasing your productivity and getting results you must get organized. Here is a little secret that my mother taught me when I was a little girl and it still works form me today – every time!!

    PUT EVERYTHING BACK WHERE IT BELONGS.

    Organization starts with putting everything in its own designated place. It doesn't mean to dump your stuff in a corner of a room designated for that particular item, but instead having a clean, and uncluttered area in which you can find the things you need in an instant.

    It doesn't take a lot of work to get your life organized, but it does take dedicated effort to make it a habit. Here are just a few ideas that can help you become better organized.

    Write your appointments and important dates in a designated calendar as soon as you are aware of them. You can also use the calendar application on your cell phone, as well as several online free reminders services, or your email calendar, in order to remind you of upcoming dates and appointments.

    Develop a method to quickly and easily navigate through your mail. I often open up my mail in front of my paper shredder. Make three piles of mail in the following category - important, interesting, and trash. If the item is important it will need your immediate attention. Examples of important items are incoming bills, membership dues, and life, health, auto, and home insurances. Interesting items include magazines, and other pieces of mail that you would like to read a bit further. The trash pile is self-explanatory.

    Designate an entire day to create "stations" for your stuff. I did this with my craft items and am quite pleased with how fast can find what I need.

    Increasing your productivity starts with the habit of consistent organization. If you want to achieve massive results in your life you must learn to be organized. An organized life is not only a peaceful life, but more importantly, it is a successful life.

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    Monday, April 2, 2012

    One of the many reasons why people lose confidence and power in dealing with people is because they are too overly concerned with what other people may think. They feel they won't be liked if they said what was on their mind. What these people really are doing is making up an excuse in order to attempt to avoid conflict; the very conflict that they need to provide the learning experience of inner growth, knowledge and confidence for dealing with people in the first place.

    Conflict management, or managing the conflict of ideas and thoughts between two or more people, can be an incredible learning experience for everyone involved, so much information is revealed in these intense periods that if we can learn to keep our integrity in tack during these short bursts of emotion, common ground can be quickly found.

    However, if your confidence and power in dealing with people is somewhat watery at best, here are three tips to clarify your thinking and get you back on track.

    1. What Do You Want Confidence And Power For?

    You interact with different people on a daily basis, and you need cooperation from these people because you know you cannot do it all alone. You also expect a certain amount of reciprocal behavior to get to where you want to be, so it would be beneficial to know what your motives are for persuading people over to your way of thinking?

    2. What Is Your Attitude Towards Conflict?

    True self-confidence is developed from the act of carrying out a successful task that has an element of personal risk or challenge. Confidence is also about disagreeing or saying no without feeling guilty in situations where you have strong opinions; to stand up for oneself so to speak. So if someone violates your space in some way, do you take the courage or confidence to take responsibility for the situation and speak up or do you just ‘let it go’…again?

    3. Preparation Is The Key

    One of the key secrets to real confident behavior is preparation, look at the words you are habitually using and prepare your speech in advance. Learn to be speak with authority, maybe even take a few singing lessons to develop vocal power. Develop a mental picture of your successful self, speaking confidently with the desired outcome.

    Dealing with people effectively is a skill that can be learned and developed over time, at some point, you will have to get started, you will have go up to someone and say your piece, even if you stand their dumb struck and your face turns crimson with embarrassment, the first step has to be taken. If you feel nervous or shaky about doing this, you need to feel the fear and do it anyway, if its on your mind, the time will come when you will have to act, go in, do it with the expectation you are going to get it all wrong, but it is never as bad as you think it is going to be. One thing is for sure, conflict is a learning experience, you will learn more about confidence in one session than a lifetime of reading books or articles on the subject.

    Remember, confidence is an attitude, a skill set that is learned and developed through application, a state of mind that can be achieved through deliberate consistent actions. You might be naturally shy or quiet and think real confidence is beyond you, but personal confidence can be one of your greatest assets. Learn to believe in yourself and your abilities, it is not easy, you will only gain power and the mental toughness needed through struggle, there is no short cut. You will only learn and grow through the challenge of getting started.

    Make no mistake, to act with deliberate intention and say what needs to be said will require consistent effort on your part, you must rehearse what needs to be said, like a musician performing a great song, they had to rehearse once upon a time. Great speeches or monologues are not 'winged,' there is always great preparation that is goes unseen, which can give you the misconception of 'they were born that way', when this is in fact, far from the truth.


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    Sunday, April 1, 2012

    I don’t know about you, but I am always on the lookout for success tips and strategies that can help me to accelerate success in my life. And in my own life, one of my favorite things to do is to read biographies about a variety of highly successful people; people past and present who have achieved great things in their life time. As I study these people I jot down their insights and beliefs in an attempt to unlock their personal strategy for success.

    Throughout my study I have narrowed down 3 three power traits or habits that all highly successful people have:

    1. Never give up. Perseverance is the number one power trait of highly successful people. To never give up means to stay focused on what it is that you want to achieve in life and to not quit. This means to keep at it and to always move forward no matter what challenges you may face along the way. The dominant attitude of highly successful people is this: I will always advance forward one more time even if the road towards success appears bumpy or difficult to navigate.

    Jack Canfield says, “Whatever your dream is don’t give up. You may have to fine tune it . . . learn some new skills, or go back to the drawing board and start over . . . but don’t give up.”

    2. Ignore the ‘good opinions’ of others. Highly successful people do not worry what other people think about their dream or goal. Stay true to what it is that you want to achieve. Your dream or goal is specifically yours, and as a result, no one has the right to tell you what they think you should do or not do in relation to what it is that you want.

    The truth is that most people feel threatened when someone they know are attempting to break out of the box of mediocrity. When they see others attempting to trade in a life of mediocrity for a life of success and fulfillment, they recognize their own failures, shortcomings, and regrets in life and are then quick to judge and criticize others.

    When I first began studying personal development and success thirty years ago I received a fabulous piece of wisdom at a goal setting workshop I attended. The advice I was given was to keep your heartfelt goals a secret, because the only person you need to approve of your success is you!

    I applied this sage piece of wisdom in my own life immediately; because at that particular time in my life, I was surrounded by negative people who were content with the status quo. I then began to covertly set and achieve my success goals on a routine basis unencumbered by negativity and I felt totally free! The results in my life were absolutely liberating because in doing so I was able to navigate my way towards my personal best without carrying the emotional baggage of others.

    It all comes down to this, when you become less concerned with what other people think, you will open the door to much greater opportunities for success and abundance in any area of life you choose.

    3. Take 110% responsibility for your life. Highly successful people take absolute control over their lives and know that blame has got to go. Statistics show that 70% of the people on this planet blame others for their failures in life. Instead of pulling up their boot straps and trying again, they give up, and blame their mom, their dad, the environment, the economy, etc.

    As soon as you buy into the blame game, you get knocked off the winner’s platform of victory. You place yourself in a losing situation because you are depending on the outside world to be successful and happy.

    Highly successful people realize that success is created from the inside out. This means that you need to take responsibility for what you think, what you visualize, and what you say and do; because these are the things that control your life experience.

    I love what my mentor and teacher Tony Robbins says about your governing your inner life for success and achievement. “It all comes down to the inner game. Changing your life is an inner game. You can’t always control what is going on in the outside life, but you can take control of what is going on in your inner life.”

    Your success is closer than you think. Apply these 3 power traits of highly successful people in your life starting today and not only begin to achieve your personal best, but also experience the satisfaction of living the life of your dreams.


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    Friday, March 30, 2012

    Jim Rohn was one of America's foremost business philosophers and a master personal development coach. One of the greatest contributions Jim Rohn shared with the world is his SMART system; a proven method on how to effectively set and achieve goals.
     
    SMART is an acronym that means Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-sensitive. The secret key to success in the new millennium is how you set and pursue goals and the application of the SMART system will not fail to deliver an abundant and fulfilling future

    Here's a closer look at each of components of SMART:

    Specific: A SMART goal is specific. Your goals should be specific and clear. Vagueness is a goal destroyer. Ambiguous goals produce ambiguous results. When you are specific, you harness the power of your dreams and set forces into action that compel and empower you to achieve your goals. There is no question about what you want to achieve. As you establish your priorities and manage your time, you are able to concentrate on your specific goal to achieve the results you expect.

    Measurable:  A SMART goal is measurable. Jim Rohn suggests that you always set goals that provide you with a means of measuring your progress. They should be such that you know not only when you are progressing forward, but also how far you are progressing.  Measuring your progress keeps you on track. You cant arrive at a destination if your not able to determine where you were going.  Measurable goals also gives you a feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment by giving you a instant feedback of your forward progress.

    Attainable:  A SMART goal is attainable. One of the biggest goal setting faux pas is to set goals that are so high they are unattainable. While I do believe that it is important for you to set big goals that cause your heart to soar with excitement, I also believe that it is imperative to make sure that you can attain those goals. So what does it mean to set a goal that is attainable?  An attainable goal is one that is both realistic but also attainable in a shorter period of time than what you have to work with. We will talk about realistic goals in the next component. Setting attainable goals doesn’t mean setting easy goals. Your goals should be set so they are just out of your reach; so they will challenge you to grow and stretch as you reach forward to achieve them.

    Realistic: A SMART goal is realistic.  Your goals have to be something that you can reasonably make "real" or become a "reality" in your life. There are some goals that simply are not realistic. How then do you know your goals are realistic or not?  This to some degree up to each individual. To gauge if  your goal is realistic or not you need to extremely honest with yourself as you evaluate what you want to achieve and engage in your planning.  Here are some examples of unrealistic goals: trying to earn a billion dollars in one day, lose two hundred pounds in two days, get a law degree in one year, etc. 

    Time:  A SMART goal has a time deadline. Each of your goals should have a time deadline attached to it.  Having a time deadline cuts off the thief of procrastination. Effective goals have an specific end time, a time in which you have set in order to achieve what it is that you want. Goal deadlines are great motivators because they move you into taking consistent and constructive action.

    SMART: specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, time.

    Get going.  Use the SMART system today.  Implementing Jim Rohn's SMART system in your goal setting routine will not only put you on the fast track toward achieving your success, but it will also help you to be encouraged and inspired as you achieve your heartfelt dreams and desires.



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    Wednesday, March 28, 2012

    Goal setting techniques needn’t be a chore.  If you are passionate about changing the circumstances in your life and carving out a compelling an fulfilling lifestyle that you  have previously only dreamed about then its crucial to find the fastest and most direct route to get there.

    Some years back as a newbie goal setter I came upon a goal setting system offered by personal development guru that was cumbersome, confusing, and in the end brought me to tears.  What I wanted was a few simple steps that I could apply in my life in an instant so that I can begin to to achieve immediate results.

    What I discovered is that I didn’t need a fancy system or method for setting and achieving my heartfelt goals.  If you want a fast, simple, and more importantly effective goal setting method, all you need is a piece of paper and a written response to the five following goal setting steps:
    1. Know exactly what you want.  Knowing what you want is like the key that starts the engine of your success mobile. Knowing what you want gives you clarity, direction and a purpose.
    2. Write it down.  Writing your goal down on paper does several things but in a nutshell it lets your conscious and subconscious mind know that your serious. “Hey guys,” it says, “take a look at this! The boss wrote it down! This is important.”
    3. Attach a reasonable deadline to your goal.  A goal set without a deadline is a dream.  Here is an example of how I attach deadlines to my goals that you may find helpful to you.  Before my written goal I write the following: “On or before date/month/year . . .”
    4. Break your goal down into doable steps.  Personal development great Anthony Robbins calls this “chunking it down.”  I call this the “pizza pie” technique.  You cant (well at least I cant) sit down and eat a large, gooey, cheesy, pizza all in one bite.  You take it slice by slice.  Break your goal down into smaller steps.
    5. Take effective action everyday.  This is where you take your broken down goal steps and go for it.  If you want to succeed in life you must take action and do what you need to do to get from where you are to where you want to be. 
    Effective goal setting is an easy process and achievement of your goals begins when you follow the five simple techniques of goal setting presented above.  So go for it! Get your piece of paper out today, write down what you want, give it a deadline, break it up into steps, and go out there and make it happen!

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    Monday, March 26, 2012

    "Now is the only time. How we relate to it creates the future. In other words, if we’re going to be more cheerful in the future, it’s because of our aspiration and exertion to be cheerful in the present. What we do accumulates; the future is the result of what we do right now." ~ Pema Chodran

    "Do not carry the burden of the past; do not live in the future. The only important thing is that one lives in the present authentically and fully. Whatever your current life is, be the most you can be by living in the moment." ~ Chan Chih

    There are two days in every week, about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension. One of these days is Yesterday with all its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains.

    Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back Yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed; we cannot erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone forever.

    The other day we should not worry about is Tomorrow with all its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise and its poor performance; Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control.

    Tomorrow's sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds, but it will rise. Until it does, we have no stake in Tomorrow, for it is yet to be born.

    This leaves only one day, Today. Any person can fight the battle of just one day. It is when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities Yesterday and Tomorrow that we break down.

    It is not the experience of Today that drives a person mad, it is the remorse or bitterness of something which happened Yesterday and the dread of what Tomorrow may bring. Let us, therefore, live but one day at a time.

    Author: Unknown


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    Sunday, March 25, 2012

    This morning I had the opportunity to recognize the incredible power of a smile. As I stood in line at the supermarket I had the opportunity to admire a rosy cheeked baby who seemed fixated on my face. I couldn’t help myself - I smiled at him, and he instantly smiled back causing me to feel those familiar, warm, fuzzies in my heart.

    Smiles are powerful things, and very contagious. As the other people around me noticed the child smiling his incredible, toothless grin, they began to smile as well, setting off a chain reaction of smiles by passerby’s. The sad truth however is that few people become aware of this simple mood lifter, and even fewer; ever take the time to smile on purpose.

    In my own life I believe that I have gleaned a lot of valuable wisdom from being in the trenches of life. I feel privileged and honored as it seems that my life has been enriched with loads of great and memorable experiences even though there were a few difficult circumstances to deal with along the way. As a Transformational Spirituality teacher I have the honor of getting to know and of associating with a lot of really fun and interesting people, and I have been able to enjoy numerous hours of pleasure engaging with them and making fun memories with each of them in the process. I am happily married, I love my children, and I am vibrant and healthy.

    Yet, perhaps like you, there are days in my life when I allow myself to become bombarded with negatives and all I want to do is to hide myself away somewhere and have a good cry. It’s on those rare days that I gratefully recollect the wisdom that my dad always gave me as a child. When I was having an off day he would say to me, 'Dar, remember, whatever happens today, don't forget to smile, because nothing is ever as bad as it seems.'

    I've found my dad's advice extremely helpful on countless occasions as I encountered some of life's curve balls. I remember one Friday morning when I was ten. I ditched elementary school because I felt as if my life was about to end. My pet rat Rosie died the night before and I felt like I couldn’t face the world. The pain was so great that my ten year old heart thought that I was going to die.

    However, I felt better about Rosie's death later that evening after my girlfriend Barbie invited me to spend the night at her house for a pajama party. We watched cartoons, played games, and smiled and laughed as we read elephant jokes to one another. The smiles and laughter eased my broken heart.

    I also remember a time when I was in high school and feeling as if my life ceased to have meaning. I was interested in student government, ran for class secretary, and I lost. I felt like a complete failure, and the feeling of rejection literally crushed me inside. Dad told me to keep my head up and to remember to smile, and he assured me that my life would turn out just fine even though I was not nominated.

    Smiles are incredibly powerful. Here are some ways you can use the power of a smile in your own life:
    • Practice smiling at yourself. In my present life, having gleaned the secret power behind a smile, I honor myself and my father by facing every day with a smile. No matter what I may be going through, the minute I greet my face in the bathroom mirror I smile at myself. Practicing smiling at yourself will also do wonders for your self-esteem.
    • Look for the humor in life. One of the biggest things that have allowed me to face each day with a giant smile on my face is my pet children. My "kids" help me to keep my sense of humor and my internal laughter meter at 110 percent smiles.  Especially my curious cat, T-Bone. My pet kids are always doing hilarious things that keep me laughing throughout the day, causing me to keep a smile on my face no matter how harried my day may be. Look for the humor in your life on a daily basis. Throughout the years I have trained myself to look for what is funny in various situations in my life, and I have found that there are a variety of ways that you can look for the humor in life. As an example, watch funny television shows and movies, go to comedy clubs, or read funny anecdotes and jokes.
    • Smile for no reason at all, and more importantly, smile often. A smile can change your emotional state in an instant! Remember the warm fuzzies I told you about when the baby smiled at me in the market?  Medical science has found that smiling activates certain neurotransmitters and hormones such as serotonin, which is often referred to as the "feel good" hormone.
    Find reasons to activate the power of a smile in your own life starting today, and remember those words a very wise man shared with me so many years ago -  'whatever happens today, don't forget to smile. Nothing is ever as bad as it seems.'


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    Friday, March 23, 2012

    In this day and age we are so inundated with choice and opportunity that you might even say that we are spoiled for choice. There is just so much that we could do that we often end up not doing anything at all. Procrastination is one of the biggest dream killers. In a world where there is so much demand on your attention it is becoming ever more difficult to stay focused and act on the things that would truly give you an extraordinary quality of life. Time is, was and will always be your most valuable asset and the way you use it will determine what you create or fail to create with and for your life. Having an effective strategy for overcoming procrastination is critical if you truly want to push past short term obstacles to create a life of fulfillment.

    The abundance that modern life offers us tends to overwhelm us which leads to an emotional overload that will distract you and scatter your effort and concentration. There simply isn't enough time to do everything, but there is always enough time for the most important things in your life. Success at anything in life, whether it be your finances, your relationships or your body, requires an investment of time and effort from you. You need to focus and concentrate your physical and emotional resources on creating a desired result.

    The first step in overcoming procrastination it to get really clear on exactly what you want from every area of your life. This clarity will give you the power to look past distractions that may throw you off course. It gives you a direction and a target and will help to build a mental picture for your life. One of the most destructive effects of procrastination is that it makes you feel out of control; like the events of your life is controlling you. If you don't know what you want it is all too easy to jump from the one task to the next. Apart from knowing what you want you should also develop some strong reasons why you want it. This will give you a sense of purpose and motivation that is critical for staying focused long term.

    The truth is that most people know what they need to do to create their life the way they want it. The challenge is not with knowing what to do, but in doing what you know. The only way you will create any result in your life is by taking action and procrastination is what prevents you from acting on the very things you know would give you a greater quality of life. The reason why people procrastinate is primarily because of fear, especially fear of failure. By not taking action and postponing important actions you avoid the potential for failing. The only reason why you procrastinate about anything is because at some level you link more pain to taking action than to not taking action. The ridiculous truth is that these "links" are mostly conjured up (by you) in your mind and they are not even real. When you make a task too big in your mind it will overwhelm you and it would seem too difficult and too big and you will end up procrastinating.

    One of the most powerful strategies for overcoming procrastination is to learn how to break your tasks up into bite size pieces. Any task, no matter how big can be broken down into small manageable tasks that is easy to do. If you focus on climbing Mount Everest it will probably put you off immediately, but if you focus on climbing seven small mountain sections it becomes more believable. The power of chunking down your "big" tasks empowers you to take back control of any overwhelming situation – you cut it down to size. Your size.

    One of the quickest ways to overcoming procrastination is to learn and utilize the power of immediacy. What can you do immediately? What action can you take right now that will move you closer to your goal? Doing something, no matter how small, will immediately break your mental pattern of procrastination and put you back in control. Taking the first step, even if it is small will create momentum and you will almost automatically be driven to take another step. Don't wait for everything to be perfect before you take the first step. Just do it. Just get it going. Often you will only know what to do next after taking that first step.

    There are many strategies and skills you can use for overcoming procrastination. You don not have to be stuck or spinning your wheels. Like any skill you need to learn and practice it until you get good at it. Eventually it will become an automatic response and you will develop the habit of taking action despite your fears and apparent limitations.



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    Wednesday, March 21, 2012

    Earl Nightingale was one of American’s most revered pioneers of personal development, and a true self-help legend. Since Earl’s passing March 25th, 1989, Nightingale-Conant continues to be among the elite companies in the world offering personal development and self-development courses and workshops.  One of the greatest contributions of Mr. Nightingale shared with the world in terms of power packed productivity are his tips on how to maximize your day to day productivity through a daily action plan. 

    “We are at our very best, and we are happiest, when we are fully engaged in work we enjoy on the journey toward the goal we've established for ourselves. It gives meaning to our time off and comfort to our sleep. It makes everything else in life so wonderful, so worthwhile,” says Earl Nightingale.

    Earl Nightingale’s ideas about setting and achieving goals are simple, practical, and of course effective.  Per Earl, the number one rule in terms of creating a fool proof daily action plan was always  ‘first things first’.  He passionately modeled the sage wisdom of St. Francis of Assisi with abundant and lasting results, “Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”

    Earl Nightingale’s Fool Proof Action Plan consists of the following four steps:

    1.  Before you go to bed at night, make a written list of those things you need to do the next day in order of importance. 
    2.  The next day focus on item number one of your list until it is done, mark it off, and then go to the next item.
    3.  Learn to minimize distractions.
    4.  Whatever you don’t get done – put at the top of your list tomorrow.

    In the words of Earl Nightingale, “All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.”   Get into the success habit of not only creating a daily action plan but also dedicating yourself to complete each task on that plan to create not only compounding momentum towards achieving what it is that you want to achieve in life, but also lasting and compelling change in your life.
     
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    Monday, March 19, 2012

    How to find inner peace seems to be one of the biggest trends of the 21st century. Learning to seek out enlightenment and inner peace seems to be the buzz trend. People are buying up books everywhere and running from guru to teacher to try to find that inner peace they so desperately crave. So then, who really has inner peace and how did they find it? I dont know about you, but when I first began my quest for inner peace I felt a bit lost when it came to uncovering the Truth.

    One surefire method for determining if you are on the right path on your way to discovering inner peace is to simply ask yourself the question, "Am I more at peace than I was a year ago or six months ago?" If you feel that you are finding more peacefulness as you progress on your path, then you know it must be working.

    If you aren't sure if you have been more peaceful, or if you think that maybe it isn't working then I suggest that you learn to to sit still a little more each day. Sitting still each day, and closing your eyes as you sit, can be a great way to calm your mind and emotions so that peacefulness eventually becomes more normal for you. Here is a bit of wisdom for you to ponder on your path to peacefulness -inner peace only comes from one place and that's the inner part of you! If you find that you aren't feeling peaceful, it's time to look deeper within yourself.

    Many times, when people decide to start a daily meditation program, they discover that their thoughts and emotions are running wild inside of them and they feel almost instantly discouraged. Common statements from beginners are "Am I doing it right?", "How should I sit?" and "Should I concentrate on my breathing?"

    If you find yourself thinking the same thoughts, relax. There is no "right" way to sit still or "correct" thing to concentrate on when you meditate. You're goal is to simply sit still with your eyes closed and relax. Don't fall asleep but don't worry so much about whether it is "right" or "wrong". If you are sitting there with your eyes closed then it is right! That's all there is to it.

    I think that, especially for beginning meditators, that the hard part comes when you start judging and analyzing all of the thoughs and emotions which arise. You then feel that this causes alot of frustration with what you are trying to do. But what are you trying to do? Nothing! So why then did you get so frustrated about nothing?

    The main issue for novice meditators is that they think there is a special formula for meditation and a way of doing it that will make them an "expert". The truth is that there is no correct way of doing it and there is no set formula. Everything you do will be correct. Just sit there and, by doing it each day for a certain amount of time, this will eventually result in more calmness of your mental processes and an equilibrium of your emotions. The beginning, however, as you are teaching your mind and emotions to to not run rampant, can sometimes be the toughest time.

    I like to think of it this way - did you ever try to teach a dog to sit still? You can usually teach him to sit but getting him to 'stay' is a bit tougher. This is oftent the same problem for people. People know how to sit but they never learn how to stay. If you can teach yourself to both sit and stay you will be among the very few people in the world who have learned a very valuable trick. For dogs, it takes some extra 'Scooby snacks' to get them to do it.

    For human beings it sometimes requires a timer, a calendar and the fun game of checking off the days of the week as they complete their task of staying for 30 minutes or more. Some humans get to be experts at this trick and can sit still for over an hour and for several different times a day. These humans are sort of like the dogs you have seen on television who can perform in front of a panel of judges and can sit and stay for long periods of time. Their masters always love them a lot and they always win the contests they enter.

    As funny as this comparison may seem, it actually applies quite well. If you learn to sit for longer periods of time without having to move around in your chair and without your mind doing cartwheels every moment, you will eventually start to win more things in life. The Master behind your thoughts and emotions will eventually come forward and reward you with a lot of great 'Scooby snacks'. Finding inner peace can be as easy as training a dog but you have to be a good dog who really wants to please his master. Now get out there and "sit" and, next time you do it, make sure and "stay" too!


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