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Guest Post by: Constance Eppard Mollerstuen
Love is a universal power that has been
called by many the supreme Good. The greatest teaching of Jesus was
Love. He taught us to love one another – to love not only those who love
us, but our enemies as well, even those who would hurt us. It is in
these latter instances where we meet one of the most difficult
challenges of life.
There is a conditioned human tendency to
react with anger when we feel hurt. Our first impulse may be to say or
do something hurtful in return, to retaliate. However, we learn as we
evolve on the spiritual path that a reaction at the same level of the
provocation can never be truly helpful or healing. We learn that only
love can heal. When we remain centered in the knowledge that, as divine
beings, Love is our true essence, we are guided not to react in anger
but instead to allow the healing power of Love to express through us. In
this way, we rise beyond discord and strife. We transcend disharmony.
Love renews and harmonizes. It uplifts and overcomes, and it brings
forth the highest and best in each of us. To love is to expand into a
life of greater peace, prosperity, and freedom. The universal power of
Love always heals.
Affirmation:
I am divine in nature.
Knowing that my true essence is love, peace and harmony, I open to
healing in every area of my life. Today is a new beginning.
Bio:
Constance Mollerstuen is the founder of
Universal Harmony Holistic Healing and Inspired by Love. She is one of the six
Licensed Heal Your Life Teachers® in the state of Washington who has been trained to
teach the work of Louise L. Hay. Constance enjoys facilitating the connection
of the mind, body and spirit to live more joyful, loving, prosperous lives and
expresses her spiritual insight and love of life through her workshops and
retreats. As a Certified Holistic Health & Wellness Coach she works with individuals
and businesses to assist them in achieving life balance, peace and harmony. Constance
is also an author and has recently contributed to the inspirational book “Move
Towards Love” due out in the spring of 2014. Her new calling as an Ordained
Minister has given her the opportunity to create unique one of a kind
ceremonies for couples and provide pre-wedding coaching services centered in
love.
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Copyright 2014, by Constance Molerstuen. All rights reserved. Curated with permission by Dar "Dardarji" Payment. If you would like some additional information on self improvement, meditation, and spirituality go to http://www.transformationalspirituality.com/ to down load free ebooks, mp3's, and other resources. Like us on Facebook!
Recently I had the opportunity to give a class on The Law of Attraction and how to use it to attract the right relationships into your life. I received some incredbile insight during the Q&A section of the class that I feel would be important to share with those who are interested in learning how to attract your ideal partner in your life through the Law of Attraction.
The following are some of the questions I am asked by some people about their relationships or lack of them. The answers to these questions can help you to better understand the Law of Attraction in terms of helping you to find your ideal mate.
Q. What kind of complaints do you most often hear about finding your ideal partner?
What I most often hear is that attracting their ideal mate is that it is a hard thing to do. I repeatedly hear things like there are no good men or women left, or that people keep attracting less than desirable dates.
However, halfway through the class these people get their "Ahh-Hah!" breakthrough moment! They learn that not getting their ideal relationship or partner has nothing to do with the availability of the 'good' ones, but that it is all about the vibrations they've been sending out.
Q. What is missing from the traditional matchmaking and online dating services?
These services are mostly concerned with what physical attributes you are most attracted to: tall, dark, handsome, busty, pretty, slender etc. However, the Law of Attraction matches people by their vibrations. An ideal dating service would be one that helped people to attract their perfect match by helping them to first begin within themselves. In other words, whatever vibration a person would want their ideal mate to have, they would first begin by creating that vibration first within themselves so that Law of Attraction can match it!
Q. Can you give any suggestions on how single people can their ideal partner?
The most ironic thing is that knowing what you didn't like about a past partner or a past date is very very useful information. You can use what you've experienced to help you get crystal clear about the kind of mate you do want. For example, if you don't want someone who works too much what is it that you do you want? If you don't want someone who is not the boring type what do you want? If you don't want someone who is not interested in dancing, or who is not romantic, or not a good listener etc., whatis it that you do you want?
Knowing what it is that you don't want will help you 'birth' more clarity about what you do want and this clarity becomes your new and specific desire! It also feels fantastic when you when you get clear about what it is you want. This new clarity has now become your heartfelt desire which is the first step to manifesting your ideal mate. I
Q. What's is happening if your desire for a ideal partner is not manifesting?
The first thing you need to know is that you're not offering a pure vibration of the way you want it to be. As a result the Law of Attraction cannot respond to it. In other words, you are saying that you want this certain type of person but you are sending out vibrations contrary to your desire. One way to check what vibrations you are offering is to observe what you are currently receiving in your life. It's always a perfect match to whatever you are offering vibrationally.
The second thing you need to realize is that most people tend to be scorekeepers and they tend to keep score about what isn't happening instead of what is. When you do that you are focusing on what isn't there and you are giving out the energy vibration of what isn't happening, more of your energy, attention and focus!
Q. What do people need to do to correct that?
Every time you catch yourself observing or thinking about what it is that you don't want, take your attention away from it! The easiest way to do this is to say to yourself, "So what is it that I do I want?"
I know it sounds simple, but the truth is that is! When you change your observation from what you don't want to what you do want, your entire vibration changes. When you change your vibration, the results will change too!
Next, for those of you who are scorekeepers, make a conscious effort to begin to notice when you are observing the lack of attracting your ideal mate. If you stop keeping score of what you are not attracting you will stop giving it your attention, energy and focus. Your job is to look for the parts of a relationship or the characteristics of a date that are matching your desire list and give those your full attention! Your vibration will change and the Law of Attraction will bring you more of the same!
Q. What should you do when you get home from a disastrous date?
First of all don't tell anyone! Don't email your friends about it! Don't talk about it with your girlfriends! Don't write about it in your journal. Remember that the Law of Attraction doesn't know if you are remembering something or complaining about it, or worrying about it. The Law of Attraction will simply bring you more of whatever it is you are focusing on!
So, come home from your date…build a list of all the things that you didn't like about your dating experience and convert each item of contrast on your list into another thing that you clearly want.
And then with your new clarity list add it to those things that you would like in an your ideal date.
If it didn't feel right on the first date, it usually will not get any better. Your first impressions are usually the right one so simply move on to the next date, learn fro it and adding new information to your list if necessary each time. You'll know when you've found your ideal mate by how it feels!
The Law of Attraction in relationships is a matter of what type of vibrations you are sending out. Remember that like attracts like. Match up your feelings and emotions with what it is that you want in an ideal relationship and watch how quickly and easily you manifest that ideal mate into your life.
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Having an arsenal of ways that you can say "I love you" will not only make a big difference in the quality of your relationship, but it will also bring more fun and excitement too.
Here are some fun, practical, easy, yet extremely romantic ways that you can say "I love you" to your partner without communicating a single word.
Write Love Notes. Write little love notes and put them in unusual and unexpected places such as inside a briefcase, purse, wallet, or even in the freezer! Be creative. Some of the places I have placed small little notes is inside my husbands clean socks, on his shaving mirror, on the television remote, and attached to a beer can in the fridge. Use post it notes, small cards, index cards folded in half, or themed stationary paper. Finding your notes in the most unsuspecting places will develop a sense of fun and adventure in your mate smiles and wonders, "where is a note going to be next!!"
Hug. Hugging and touching are emotional heart connectors and provide a great deal of intimacy in a relationship. Hug your partner as often as possible and dont forget to give them a little innocent kiss on the cheek! A wise sage once said, "A kiss without a squeeze is like apple pie without some cheese."
Read or Write A Poem. Poems are the language of love. Write a poem for your partner, or in the alternative read them one. There are several great websites online that have some wonderfully romantic poems that you can share. You dont have to mushy. Just write or read something that is sincere and that tells them how much you love them.
Surprise Your Partner With a Gift. Dont limit yourself to giving gifts only on your mates birthday, your Anniversary, Christmas, or Valentines Day. Surprise your partner by buying them random gifts. You dont have to bust the bank here either. Think of small gifts that you know your mate will enjoy such as flowers, a paperback book or magazine, or a gift card to their favorite coffee bistro. Giving a gift provides the giver with as much joy as it does to the person receiving it and is a perfect way to say "I love you."
Hold Your Lovers Hand. Holding hands, like hugging, keep you physically connected and is a simple romantic gesture that tells your partner you still enjoy their touch. Hold your partners hand while walking in the parking lot, across the table in a restaurant, or while sitting together watching TV.
Surprise Your Mate with a Special Meal. Prepare one of your mate's favorite meals and create some ambiance in the room. Set the table, light the fireplace, light some candles, put soft music on, and be prepared for some romantic sparks!
Dress The Part. Take some time to look your best for your partner. Dont let the romance robber called complacency ruin your party. Often in the early stages of a relationship you take the time to dress up and make an effort to look your best, but then due to the familiarity factor you become complacent. Wear perfume and make up if you are a woman, and cologne if you are a man. Also, spice up things once in a while by wearing some sexy lingerie or undergarment.
Give a Foot or Shoulder Rub. The daily stressors of life and the necessity to be on our feet for long periods of time through out the day cause a great deal of tension in the shoulders, and tired, achy feet. Show your partner how much you care about them by rubbing their feet, and by giving them a quick shoulder massage. It will not only refresh and revive them after a long day of work, but also will remind them that you are concerned about them physically and emotionally.
Sip Champagne in Bed. Dont wait for a special occasion to sip champagne with your mate. Surprise them by serving them champagne in bed! You can serve your partner brunch in bed and include a glass of champagne, or serve it as an appetizer, or an aperitif, after making love.
There are numerous ways to tell your partner that you love them, and the best part is that many of them cost little or no money. The only thing that is needed is an appreciative and open heart, a bit of creativity, and a willingness and desire to create small surprising memories and experiences that equate into a lifetime of love and romance.
