Work-Life Rebalance In 3 Simple Steps

That day I dreamed I had a "normal" life.  I remember staring out my office window at exactly 5:00 PM on a Friday evening. Happy, smiling people poured outside the building entrance and into the parking structures, ready to embrace their weekend.

I look at my overflowing in bin, and sigh. My eyes settle upon my carefully planned Day Timer as it beckons me to get back to work. I sigh again. There has to be something more to life than work! 

"Sooner or later, we all have to find a way to find a good work-life balance." says freelance writer and workplace wellness consultant Mike Martin.

"If not, we find that work takes up so much of our life that there is little time left for anything else. Or, we pay a much greater price in terms of our physical, mental, or emotional well-being."

I couldn't agree more.  I stare at the can of diet coke, and the half eaten Snickers Bar on my desk. I have a headache, my neck hurts, and I wonder why I am working so hard on all this "stuff", because on my death bed I certainly will not be thinking about my work deadlines! 

The naked awareness shakes me.  I get up, grab my coat and make a vow from that day forward to make my work my play, and to reclaim my life.

In a recent article MikeMartin shares 3 simple yet practical ways to re-balance your life and your work.  If you are currently feeling like you are all work and no play, these steps will help you to take a step back, rethink, refocus, and refresh.

Read the full article here to discover three simple lessons on work-life balance.

If you found these tips relevant - leave a comment below and let me know your thoughts!


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Your Personal Meaning of Success - What is it?

"Success isn't a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire." ~Arnold H. Glasow

This really is a great quote. Not only is it interesting but also inspiring.

One of the truths that I find most frustrating as a transformational spirituality teacher and a life coach, is that many people believe that success, in whatever field of endeavor they are currently striving, is rather like winning the lottery. In fact, it certainly seems from the evidence that they in fact believe that success is even more random because they aren't even buying a ticket. They are simply passively waiting.

If you listen to how people talk you won't hear many people voicing this opinion of success but look around you and watch what people are actually doing--or rather not doing--and you will quickly see what I mean.

Many people want things--they want to be rich, they want to be at the top of their profession, they want a successful marriage, they want to raise great kids, they want to be respected in their community, and so on.

You Must "Do" to Have

But what do they do to achieve this success? Are they working both hard and smart toward their financial goals and living frugally while they do so?  Are they constantly learning and striving at their job?  Are they showing their spouse love, consideration, understanding, and generosity?  Are they spending time with their children both modeling how to be a good person and being generous with their love and understanding?  Are they regularly proving themselves an asset within their community by being a good neighbor in every sense of the word?

We all know that we must accomplish these tasks and be successful in those areas, but we are also acutely aware that something is missing as well. It all come down to what success means to you.

Your Personal Definition of Success
 
So let me ask you a question.  How do you define success?

Is it money, career, love, marriage, family, friendship, respect, community?

For me, success is primarily about love. How many lives do I touch with mine? How many hearts?  Who has been changed by my existence in a positive way?

Your definition of success will also help you zero in on your personal value system - or that which you hold most sacred for your self. Your core values influence the way in which you behave, act, and how you live your life.

Define Your Meaning of Success - Write Your Own Obituary

The best way to define your meaning of success is by writing your own obituary. Over 250 years ago Alfred Nobel saw his obituary in the newspaper. His legacy?  The man who created dynamite.  The obituary was a result of faulty information, but never-the-less, Swedish Scientist Alfred Nobel took notice and  decided to create something positive that could be remembered forever - The Nobel Peace Prize!

When you write your own obituary and record how you want the world to remember you, and what skills that you contributed to make the world better place you set your Spirit on fire!  You get a clear glimpse of not only what success means to you, but also of your own unique greatness and what it is you have to share with the world.

When you are able to do this you will set not only your life, but also your world on fire.  If you truly want this particular definition of success then we will set ourselves on fire and avoid the possibility of spontaneous combustion.

## Copyright 2014, by Dar "Dardarji" Payment. All rights reserved. If you would like some additional information on self improvement, meditation, and spirituality go to http://www.transformationalspirituality.com/ to down load free ebooks, mp3's, and other resources. Like us on Facebook!

 

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I Can See Clearly Now by Wayne W. Dyer

Beloved Hay House Author, and spiritual teacher Wayne Dyer has done it again! With over 40 books under his author's belt, Wayne Dyer has just released his memoirs in his newest book, I Can See Clearly Now. More than just an organic outline of his life, Wayne Dyer provides you with his 5 Sacred Principles to live an exceptional life.

WARNING! May include spoilers!  Without a doubt, Wayne is an excellent teacher and storyteller.  Throughout the chapters of this book he shares the intimate stories of his life, illustrating how each has guided and shaped his spiritual evolution.  Every emotional experience was another pivot point for Wayne, and from them, he produced his best-selling books, audiotapes and lectures. Wayne's reflections on the twists and turns of his authentic life reveal the power inherent in each of us to have the same joyful existence.

True to the style of Wayne's other books, this book is full of wit and practical everyday wisdom. Throughout the book he shares the 5 Sacred Principles that he has adapted in his own life, and which serve as his own internal value system and compass. The five key principles for seeing clearly now, which have guided Wayne through all his important life choices, are: willingness, determination, fearlessness, compassion, and love—which make up the rungs of a sacred ladder that Wayne believes can bring us all closer to our most sacred self.

As a Wayne Dyer fan I was immediately captivated by the pages of this book and found myself highlighting illuminating quotes and thoughts, as well as stopping to journal some salient points. He is such an amazing story teller and I kept finding myself saying, "Wow!"

I was particularly drawn to his candid, and up close and personal recollections of his relationship with his family, the insights that evolved him spiritually, as well as his personal heartbreaks which in later years he realized were Divine Providence. As far as the personal heartbreaks, it was refreshing to realize that someone I admire is a real person who has like me of experienced the hard knocks of life. Yet Wayne refused to let those experiences define him reminding us with his famous quote, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."

My most favorite passage in this book encourage me to stay true my life's calling as an author, speaker, and spiritual teacher. I found Wayne's wisdom refreshing and motivating:

"Stay in touch with and honor the calling you feel deep within you. Ignoring that will leave you feeling like a prisoner in your own body and in your own private world. Your soul is miserable when it is confined, or labeled, or told what it can or cannot do. Its theme song shouts out, “Don’t fence me in!”

As you begin to see more and more clearly not only how and why your life took all of its twists and turns but what direction it is going to take from here on in, you will see that your soul will not ever lead you astray. This is because this is truly who you are—not your accomplishments or possessions, but that inner sense of purpose that seeks out immensity and expansion." [page 336]

Reading this book has inspired me to revisit some of those dreams and visions that I have "shelved" out of fear, and to actualise them while applying some of the ideas, tools and attitudes outlined in the text. Finally, “I Can See Clearly Now” has reignited the spark of possibility that I can learn to trust life at a deeper level. For these things I feel grateful to the author.

I highly recommend “I Can See Clearly Now”. It just might be the life shift that you need to help you to breakthrough to your sacred self.

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