The Incredible Power of a Smile

This morning I had the opportunity to recognize the incredible power of a smile. As I stood in line at the supermarket I had the opportunity to admire a rosy cheeked baby who seemed fixated on my face. I couldn’t help myself - I smiled at him, and he instantly smiled back causing me to feel those familiar, warm, fuzzies in my heart.

Smiles are powerful things, and very contagious. As the other people around me noticed the child smiling his incredible, toothless grin, they began to smile as well, setting off a chain reaction of smiles by passerby’s. The sad truth however is that few people become aware of this simple mood lifter, and even fewer; ever take the time to smile on purpose.

In my own life I believe that I have gleaned a lot of valuable wisdom from being in the trenches of life. I feel privileged and honored as it seems that my life has been enriched with loads of great and memorable experiences even though there were a few difficult circumstances to deal with along the way. As a Transformational Spirituality teacher I have the honor of getting to know and of associating with a lot of really fun and interesting people, and I have been able to enjoy numerous hours of pleasure engaging with them and making fun memories with each of them in the process. I am happily married, I love my children, and I am vibrant and healthy.

Yet, perhaps like you, there are days in my life when I allow myself to become bombarded with negatives and all I want to do is to hide myself away somewhere and have a good cry. It’s on those rare days that I gratefully recollect the wisdom that my dad always gave me as a child. When I was having an off day he would say to me, 'Dar, remember, whatever happens today, don't forget to smile, because nothing is ever as bad as it seems.'

I've found my dad's advice extremely helpful on countless occasions as I encountered some of life's curve balls. I remember one Friday morning when I was ten. I ditched elementary school because I felt as if my life was about to end. My pet rat Rosie died the night before and I felt like I couldn’t face the world.　The pain was so great that my ten year old heart thought that I was going to die.

However, I felt better about Rosie's death later that evening after my girlfriend Barbie invited me to spend the night at her house for a pajama party. We watched cartoons, played games, and smiled and laughed as we read elephant jokes to one another. The smiles and laughter eased my broken heart.

I also remember a time when I was in high school and feeling as if my life ceased to have meaning. I was interested in student government, ran for class secretary, and I lost. I felt like a complete failure, and the feeling of rejection literally crushed me inside. Dad told me to keep my head up and to remember to smile, and he assured me that my life would turn out just fine even though I was not nominated.

Smiles are incredibly powerful. Here are some ways you can use the power of a smile in your own life:

• Practice smiling at yourself. In my present life, having gleaned the secret power behind a smile, I honor myself and my father by facing every day with a smile. No matter what I may be going through, the minute I greet my face in the bathroom mirror I smile at myself. Practicing smiling at yourself will also do wonders for your self-esteem.
• Look for the humor in life. One of the biggest things that have allowed me to face each day with a giant smile on my face is my pet children. My "kids" help me to keep my sense of humor and my internal laughter meter at 110 percent smiles.　 Especially my curious cat, T-Bone. My pet kids are always doing hilarious things that keep me laughing throughout the day, causing me to keep a smile on my face no matter how harried my day may be. Look for the humor in your life on a daily basis. Throughout the years I have trained myself to look for what is funny in various situations in my life, and I have found that there are a variety of ways that you can look for the humor in life. As an example, watch funny television shows and movies, go to comedy clubs, or read funny anecdotes and jokes.
• Smile for no reason at all, and more importantly, smile often. A smile can change your emotional state in an instant! Remember the warm fuzzies I told you about when the baby smiled at me in the market?　 Medical science has found that smiling activates certain neurotransmitters and hormones such as serotonin, which is often referred to as the "feel good" hormone.

Find reasons to activate the power of a smile in your own life starting today, and remember those words a very wise man shared with me so many years ago -　 'whatever happens today, don't forget to smile. Nothing is ever as bad as it seems.'

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4 Power Packed Tips to Help You to Crush Fear and Anxiety!

Some people have a difficult time managing their anxieties and fears, which often results in low self esteem and self-confidence. As a result, not only does low self esteem and low self-confidence carry over into other areas of your life such as in your career, and in your relationship with others, but it can also affect your motivation to carve out a life of success and achievement. This means that if you want to put your best foot forward in life and to be effective that you must learn to manage your fears and anxiety.

The truth is that you can decide to manage your fears and anxieties or you can let them manage you! To crush fear and anxiety you must choose to take control by facing your fears and breaking through them. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "You gain strength, courage and confidence by experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face."

Here are four valuable tips you can apply in your life starting today to help you effectively manage your fears and anxieties, and that will you to help to raise your self esteem:

1. Exercise patience and persistence with yourself. Remember that practice makes perfect. Whenever it comes to dealing with your anxieties or any other task; practice, patience, and persistence is the name of the game. If you don't get the desired results the first time around, then keep trying until you do get the results. Through practice, you will become better at the task at hand and your self-confidence will increase.

2. Use your fear and anxiety as a learning partner. In every anxiety related situation you experience, you can begin to look for and to learn what works, what doesn't work, and what you need to improve on in managing your fears and anxieties. When you do this your fears and anxieties not only become a useful learning tool, but also a helpful guide. Here is an example - you are at work and begin to experience a lot of anxiety, so you decide to take a walk to help you feel better, and it works. The walk eases your stress and refreshes your mind, your body, and your emotions. The next time you begin to feel anxious you can remind yourself that you got through it the last time by taking a walk. This then inspires you and gives you additional confidence that you can and will be able to manage your anxiety the next time it surfaces.

3. Mentally rehearse a positive outcome when facing situations that bring out your fear or anxiety. Sometimes, you can get anxious over a task that you will have to perform in the near future. When this happens, visualize yourself doing the task in your mind, and having a positive outcome. For example, you have to give a report at the next corporate meeting in front of a large group of people in the next few days. Before the big day comes, see yourself addressing the group in your mind. Mentally see your audience being interested and engaged in what you are saying. By rehearsing the event first in your mind, you will feel better prepared to perform when the real time comes. Visualization is a great way to reduce not only your fear, but also the stress of an up coming situation - and it also increases your self-confidence by leaps and bounds.

4. Pray for Divine guidance. Prayer is an incredibly powerful thing, so do don't forget to pray and ask for Divine assistance and strength especially when you are feeling fearful or stressed out about something. As a human being you can only do and handle so much, so roll the overload into the lap of Universal Source. Asking for spiritual guidance can give you additional insights and resources to help you manage your fears, and to increase your self-confidence.

Endeavor to apply the above four tips in your daily life on a regular basis and watch your anxiety and fear disappear! It may feel at times that handling your fear and anxiety is a difficult process, but remember that you and only you can make the decision of whether or not you take a stand and control your fears, or if you will let your fears control you!

"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain." ~ Frank Herbert

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How to Eliminate Worry and Achieve Peace of Mind

A friend has this quotation on his office wall: "I know worry works because nothing I worry about ever happens."

I think I believe and resonate with those words of wisdom because I used to worry a lot -- and about the most insignificant things. I would worry about the big things as well of course, like health, relationships, and finances. But I used also fret about anything and everything that found its way into my consciousness.

Because I spent so much time on worry, I decided to embrace it and deal with it by turning it into a learning project. With and open mind and spirit, and with much research here is what I learned and applied in my life with significant results:

1. Notice when worry took out its running shoes and take a spin around my mind. 

Here is what I did - I would practice catching myself at it and say, "Hey, I'm worrying again." Once during my worry project while on my daily morning power walk, I caught myself worrying 10 times! I'm not kidding. What also learned during my worry project was that on those rare days when I didn't have anything to worry about, I would find something. What I've learned at the conclusion of my worry project is that worry is a mental habit that can be changed. I also rememberedh that I have the power to change my mental habits; and you do too, so take heart because there's hope.

2. Practice being the center of the Universe.

My second approach was to practice presence. By this I mean stopping my thoughts. In my workshops, I ring a bell to help participants practice mental and physical centering. The quieter we are, the longer we hear the bell. There's a lovely moment when we all listen . . . until the ring is barely audible . . . then just a memory. I relish that moment of quiet before my thoughts reengage. There is no future or past, just Now. No worrying thoughts -- no thoughts at all. It's a peaceful place, which is why I always attempt to stretch the moment. I want to strengthen the connection to something greater than my worries.

When I told my good friend Chang, a retired Buddhist Nun, about my worry project, she shared with me her approach, which is to do one of three things: decide to address the issue right then; if you can't do anything about it at the moment, give yourself a time to address it later; or decide that it is not important and let it go. In other words, act on it, file it or throw it away.

Finally, one of Chang's favorite worry stoppers (and mine) is to sing. Connect with your self, your creativity, and the place where everything really is okay by raising your voice in song.

Awareness and acknowledgment are the keys to changing your habits. Morihei Ueshiba, the founder of the martial art of Aikido spoke awareness as the 'Art of Peace', and said that we must "always practice the Art of Peace in a vibrant and joyful manner." One thing my worry project did was to help me to lighten up, laugh, and to smile, and to live each day in peace and joy.

Are you worrying? Take the time right now to stop your thoughts for a moment. Listen to the sounds around you, pay attention, and be present to this key moment. And smile for no reason at all, because you may find that's the best reason of all.


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How to Have Confidence and Power in Dealing With People

One of the many reasons why people lose confidence and power in dealing with people is because they are too overly concerned with what other people think. They feel they won't be liked if they said what was on their mind. What they are really saying is that they are trying to avoid conflict, when the conflict is the exact learning experience they need to provide the growth, knowledge and confidence for dealing with people in the first place.

Conflict management or managing the conflict of ideas and thoughts between two or more people can be an incredible learning experience for everyone involved, so much information is revealed in these intense periods that if we can learn to keep our integrity in tack during these short bursts of emotion, common ground can be quickly found.

However, if your confidence and power in dealing with people is somewhat watery at best, here are three tips to clarify your thinking and get you back on track.

1. What Do You Want Confidence And Power For?

We interact with different people on a daily basis, we need cooperation from these people because we know we cannot do it alone, we expect a certain amount of reciprocal behavior to get to where we want to be, so it would be beneficial to know what our motives are for persuading people over to our way of thinking?

2. What Is Your Attitude Towards Conflict?

True self-confidence is developed from the act of carrying out a successful task that has an element of personal risk or challenge. Confidence is also about disagreeing or saying no without feeling guilty in situations where we have strong opinions, to stand up for oneself so to speak. So if someone violates your space in some way, do you take the courage or confidence to take responsibility for the situation and speak up or do you just ‘let it go’…again?

3. Preparation Is The Key

One of the key secrets to real confident behavior is preparation, look at the words you are habitually using and prepare your speech in advance. Learn to be speak with authority, maybe even take a few singing lessons to develop vocal power. Develop a mental picture of your successful self, speaking confidently with the desired outcome.

Dealing with people effectively is a skill that can be learned and developed over time, at some point, you will have to get started, you will have go up to someone and say your piece, even if you stand their dumb struck and your face turns crimson with embarrassment, the first step has to be taken. If you feel nervous or shaky about doing this, you need to feel the fear and do it anyway, if its on your mind, the time will come when you will have to act, go in, do it with the expectation you are going to get it all wrong, but it is never as bad as you think it is going to be. One thing is for sure, conflict is a learning experience, you will learn more about confidence in one session than a lifetime of reading books or articles on the subject.

Remember, confidence is an attitude, a skill set that is learned and developed through application, a state of mind that can be achieved through deliberate consistent actions. You might be naturally shy or quiet and think real confidence is beyond you, but personal confidence can be one of your greatest assets. Learn to believe in yourself and your abilities, it is not easy, you will only gain power and the mental toughness needed through struggle, there is no short cut. You will only learn and grow through the challenge of getting started.

Make no mistake, to act with deliberate intention and say what needs to be said will require consistent effort on your part, you must rehearse what needs to be said, like a musician performing a great song, they had to rehearse once upon a time. Great speeches or monologues are not 'winged,' there is always great preparation that is goes unseen, which can give you the misconception of 'they were born that way', when this is in fact, far from the truth.

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How to Overcome Self Sabotaging Behaviors

Self-sabotaging behaviors prevent you from conditioning yourself for success. Changing your long, established behavior patterns like self-sabotage is as easy as recognizing and understanding where they came from.

How, then, can you eliminate sabotaging beliefs and emotions? First, you must learn to understand and accept yourself before attempting to understand and accept others. You can't give away that which you don't have which means that you are going to need to take a journey within for an honest personal evaluation.

This inner reflection will consist of looking inside yourself and listening to your inner dialog or self-talk about what you think and what you believe - especially in that area that you are consistently sabotaging yourself. Remain open minded to what you see and hear when learning to explore and understand your own beliefs. This is essential part to making constructive changes in your behaviors. Deciding how far and deep you want to go in your introspection is your own decision. However, when you take the time to do some real soul searching, it has the ability to take your life to a new level when you discover empowering insights to help you to eliminate your damaging self-talk and undermining behaviors.

Making a decision to let go of self-sabotaging behaviors that prevent you from the changes required for attaining success and mastery in those areas of your life that is important to you, takes a great deal of courage, fortitude, and a personal commitment to develop more effective actions. You can't change the beliefs and behavior of others, you do have the power to change what you believe, and how you want to act or react in certain situations. Your greatest power in life is your ability to choose how you want to think, feel, act and react in any given situation. When you take full responsibility of your power you develop a more optimistic attitude and passively equipped to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior patterns.

So what some specific actions can you take now in order to become aware of, and to overcome your sabotaging beliefs and self-defeating emotions?

1. Recognize that you are the master of your life. You, and you alone, are 100% responsible for the decisions and choices you make in life.  Stay true to what it is that you want to be and achieve and politely decline the good opinions of others who want to tell you how you should live your life.

2. Monitor your internal self-talk. Watch for the disempowering chatter that comes up such as, "I can't" or "I won't", and consciously reframe it to "I can," and "I will" on a consistent basis. Pay conscious attention to the emotional changes going on within you as the negative babble rises to the surface, and be prepared to physically describe your changes and write them down. As yourself the following questions: "If I where to know where these negative feelings that ( 'I can't', or 'I don't deserve it', 'I am not good enough') came from it would be . . . ? Is it really true that ( 'I can't', or 'I don't deserve it', 'I am not good enough') or is it just my current perception? Write down what comes up for you. Awareness of where these negative feelings first originated from is 80% of the battle of ridding yourself of self-sabotaging patterns and behaviors.

3. Cultivate positive emotions such as joy, passion, excitement, and happiness. When you do this your are planting the seeds that will produce positive and empowering beliefs and actions. Ask yourself, "Are my actions linked to pleasure-producing situations or to pain-producing situations?" Take actions that will give you the most amount of pleasure and not grief.

Knowing where your self-sabotaging behaviors and beliefs originated from in the first place, making a conscious effort to monitor and retrain your internal self-talk, and a consistent effort to develop positive and more productive emotions will help you to overcome self-sabotaging patterns in no time. As a result you will caused procrastination and fear to bow humbly to a life to massive success and achievement of your heart felt dreams.

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3 Steps to Supercharged Confidence

Motivational author Robert Collier once wrote, "Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measure by your belief in yourself." To succeed in any endeavor of life you must learn to be confident in yourself and in your ability to succeed.

Here are 3 simple steps that you can use starting today for supercharged confidence in your ability to receive the best out of life.

1. Talk positively to yourself all the time. Become your own best friend and supporter. Encourage yourself to do more. Congratulate yourself on every small or large victory. Remember that very few people are successful the first time they try to do something. You didn't ride a bike the first time you tried.

Thomas Edison didn't invent the light bulb on his first attempt either. It took him more than 10,000 attempts before he made the first successful light bulb and it only lasted a few minutes. The biggest thing to remember is that you are never defeated in doing anything you want to do until you quit.

Donald Trump, during a recent interview, stated that he was richer than most people because he failed more times than most. However, in his case, he learned from his mistakes and tried again. Why? Because he was confident that he could do what he wanted to do if he just continued trying.

You are no different from Donald Trump. Do what he did. Just keep trying until you succeed. When you do, your self confidence will soar and you will realize that you can do anything you want to as long as you continue trying.

2. Another technique is to study and watch other people. When you see someone that stands upright and moves with a sense of purpose watch to see if they give you the impression that they have a lot of confidence. If they do, duplicate the physical characteristics of these confident people and you will start to gain the confidence they display.

3. The most important thing that you must ensure that you do is to not do listen to people who talk down to you or try to tell you that you cannot do something. Usually these people can't do these things themselves, so they try to convince others that they can't do them either. If something like this keeps happening to you, tune these people out and stop associating with them. Your inner confidence needs to be liberated from this constant barrage of negative thoughts and statements from the dream stealers around you. Your limitations are in your mind, not in your reality.

Here are a few more tips you can use for everyday practice:  If you want to develop and build confidence, associate with positive uplifting people. Positive and uplifting people around you inspire you and will help you build self-confidence. If you want to build up your confidence, do something new every day. Stimulate your mind by experiencing new things on a regular basis.

Each of these small acts will add to your confidence by causing you to break out of your comfort zone, and will also make your life more enjoyable.

The most sacred thing in life is self-confidence because it is the secret of all miracles. When you have confidence in yourself, you arouse everything that is stronger, greater and superior in you. In consequence, the more confidence you have in yourself, the more you will attain and accomplish.

A person who knows the power of self-confidence walks a path of inner growth and achievement. With self confidence a person of mediocre ability can achieve more in life than those with exceptional talents and little self confidence. Supercharge your confidence today!

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A Woman's Guide to Jump Starting Your Self Confidence

I love the quote by Eleanor Roosevelt, "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent". Actually grasping this concept alone will be your most valuable asset on your journey to confidence, and remember - jump starting your self confidence is a journey not a destination.

Women in modern society face greater challenges especially in the corporate work environment. Therefore confidence is key when it comes to success and reaching your goals. Also, you will find that if you build confidence in one area of your life suddenly you begin to become more confident in other areas.

When developing confidence, the one thing that is important to remember is that you weren't born confident. We have all had life experiences when we felt less than enough, pushed down, and/or have gone through some amazingly difficult circumstances that have ultimately shaped and influenced our confidence levels.

So what does this mean?  Confidence is a learned trait; which means that you are going to have to make a deliberate effort to develop it, but it will be well worth it.

Here are some great tips on how to increase your confidence:

1. Set goals you know you can reach. Remember Rome wasn't built in a day.

2. Allow yourself to fail without it depleting your value and self worth. First of all, take the approach that we learn from our mistakes. Some of my best education has come for the school of hard knocks. I recently read a statistic that said the best baseball player hits around .350 - which means he misses 65 percent of the time.

3. Acknowledge yourself. Focusing on your positive qualities. Remember no one is perfect even if they think they are! In doing this it will be important to tune out the mindless head chatter. We are often our own worst enemy when it comes to squashing our self confidence.

4. Acknowledge qualities you would like to improve. Remember, like in all the "group therapy" meetings we hear about the first step is to acknowledge the problem.

5. Once problems areas are identified, seek assistance in resolving them. Don't go at this alone. I think so many people are ashamed to get help that they suffer in silence. I would much rather drop my pride and get help and live a fruitful life than to attempt to fake it. Remember, faking self confidence won't last. If you are anxious about seeking help, do so with someone that doesn't know you personally and ensures your privacy. If you need professional assistance but finances are an issue, many church organizations or organizations on the internet offer assistance for free.

6. Celebrate your successes. Yes, we all have them. Focus on your talents and give yourself permission to be proud of yourself. Remember the inferiority quote, "no one makes you feel inferior without your permission"?

7. Be thankful and be positive. I've heard it said that a lack of self confidence can be due to a feeling of not having enough of something. Things will come and go in our lives, so who we are cannot be based on what we have materially. Being thankful and recognizing what you do have will help to fight the feeling of insecurity and inadequacy, but try to focus on non-material things such as relationships, health, your humor or wisdom, or your ability to remain calm under crazy circumstances. Also, avoid self-pity. Again I say, remember the quote, "no one makes you feel inferior without your permission"!

8. Get a hobby that is enjoyable to you and allows you to express yourself. Things such as music, art, writing, or even volunteering are great examples. It doesn't have to be something you think you will be good at. Let it be something that is purely for enjoyment and you'll be amazed at how good at it you actually are!

9. Stick with your principles. By maintaining an identity that is consistent you will find that people will become more respectful of you, increasing your confidence. When ever you waver back and forth on issues it gives people the sense you are wishy-washy and perhaps not as trustworthy. This can strain relationships making your confidence level decrease.

10. Also, it should go without saying but stick up for yourself! I once heard someone say that you have to teach people how to treat you. If you let them put you down many will. Don't let them decrease your confidence even in a joking manner.

11. Smile - even if you don't feel like it. Many of you know that it takes more muscles to frown than to smile so go ahead and smile. Besides, studies have shown that an expression on your face can actually persuade your brain to register that emotion. Think: I am gorgeous! Then look in the mirror and smile.

12. Of course everyone’s favorite - get plenty of sleep, eat well, exercise regularly, and stop stressing. I put these all together because they seem to end up together in most self-help mantras these days. And as many of you can relate they are easier said then done. Remember the first thing - set attainable goals? That is a must for this action item.

13. Try to spend time surrounded by people that lift you up. There is a belief that you become like those you send your time with. If you are constantly hanging around negative people then you are likely to become the same. I was once encouraged to take a cell phone challenge and delete everyone from my phone that was negative or created feelings of negatively in me when we spoke. This is a bit extreme for some of you but has been known to work. Also, know that surrounding yourself with positive people will likely lead to compliments, something many of us aren't comfortable accepting due to low confidence levels. Accept them and don't make excuses as to why their compliment isn't really correct!

14. Take action! You would be surprised how powerful this one strategy is. By setting attainable goals and taking baby steps, taking action can be easy. The awesome thing is it tends to have a snowball effect.

Now you are on your way to building your confidence level.  Remember, self confidence won't happen overnight so be patient with yourself. A confident woman is a sexy woman.  The more you practice these techniques, the easier it is to maintain the confidence once established. And the more confident you become, the more successful, capable, charismatic, and prosperous you will be. 

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5 Ways to Revitalize Your Self-Esteem

In a self-esteem slump? Need to revitalize and supercharge your self-confidence? Your self-confdience is directly linked to your feelings of self worth, or your self-esteem.

Here are 5 proven ways that you can use to boost not only your self-esteem, but also your confidence in your ability to achieve massive success in those areas of your life that are important to you.

1.  Develop Winning Body Language. The science of neurolinguistic programming has proven that there is an inseparable link to your body language and your emotions. Try to slump your shoulders down, hang your head low, and say in a rather depressing voice, "I am really happy today." Those happy feelings just aren't there are they? Now sit up straight, smile, and say in a happy, enthusiastic voice, "My life sucks!" Practice positive body language on a regular basis. Smile and have an impeccable posture. Study and emulate the body language of successful people you admire.

2.  Recall those times when you have achieved your personal best.  Remembering all of your past victories and all the good things that came along with it is a great way to supercharge your self-esteem. It not only reminds you that you have some valuable skills and abilities in areas that you excel at, but also gives you the confidence to keep on, keeping on and to not quit in the pursuit of your goals and dreams.

3.  Act as if.  Act as if you have already received what it is that you want. Imagine yourself having, being, and doing what it is that you want as if you have already received it. Visualization is a powerful tool. Your subconscious mind cannot distinguish between a real experience and one that is vividly imagined. Visualize often and make sure that you use as much sensory detail as possible. Make your visualization's rich with color, sounds, textures, and emotions.

4. Develop a Positive Mindset.  A positive mindset is not only positive thinking. A positive mindset is an attitude of always thinking the best in all situations you encounter. A positive mindset breeds positive thoughts and words which translates into positive action.

5. Have a solid plan of action.  Knowing exactly what you want and how you are going to get there is a short cut to success. A strategy or plan provides you with a workable roadmap that will enable you to quickly get from where you are in your life to where you want to be. A plan of action also gives you instant feedback about your progress, and gives you an incredible feeling of accomplishment as your forward momentum toward your goal increases.

Revitalizing your self-esteem supercharges your self-confidence. Implementing the preceding five methods in your life starting today, and allowing them to become part of your daily success routine, will lead you on the road towards massive success and mega accomplishment; and more importantly will change the quality of your life forever.

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Look at Life With Wonder and Be Happy Now!

'Same ole, same ole'. The same ole sun, the same ole sky, the same ole home, and the same ole routine. Many of find that life is boring. Every day seems the same.

What about you? How do you carry on from day to day? Perhaps like me you have even wondered, why is it that a week doesn't have seven Sundays? Or perhaps you find yourself saying - 'I want to enjoy life. I am getting bored with a schedule that never changes. There is no excitement in my life.'

I bet that if you ask few friends about their life and they will say something similar. Why is it that life is becoming a bore for them and how can they make it exciting?

Can one escape work? Well, I guess you can, but no sensible person can escape it forever. Can a parent stop caring for his/her children? No. Can an executive stop making decisions? No.

Then how can you make life exciting? There must be some way. Well, yes, and I am glad you have asked - there is a way and it is very simple.

Just look out of your window and watch the sky. Do you observe any clouds? Look at them. Look at the different shapes? Who made them? From where did they arrive and where will they go? Look at some flowers in your home. Observe their symmetry. Touch and feel the softness. How lovely! We are surrounded by treasures, but we have no time to look at them. A child's smile can make today a different day than any other day. Try to make a child smile and feel the joy.

Look at the night sky. Observe the stars and think about the distances. Some are so far away that it takes light, hundreds of years to reach us. How many millions of years you will take to walk and reach them? What is beyond them? Observe, think and get excited. Life need never be dull for any of us.

Here is another example. While sitting at your table, have you ever wondered about the wood that was used to make it? Have you thought about the life of the tree? A small seed grew into a gigantic tree.

I find that very exciting. What about the tar on the road? It comes from deep inside the earth, goes to refineries and is then laid on the roads.

How deep must the oil well have been?  How did they locate the oil and what will happen after we finish all the oil?

The world you and I live in is full of objects that can make us think and wonder. It is our attitude that makes our life. If we adopt a child-like attitude towards things, we will bring joy back in life. I am not asking you to give up your work to enjoy life but to just pay attention.

Find time during the day to look at things and wonder. Bring joy back in your life. You can begin right now. Look at your screen. What happens to the text after you shut down your computer? Where does everything go when you close the browser? Life is full of excitement - live it!

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How to Feel Happier and Get More Enjoyment Out of Life

Have you ever had one of those days when you woke up on the wrong side of the bed? Perhaps you even tried to get yourself in a better emotional state, but your cranky mood seemed to stick on your shoe like gum on a hot summers day.

At times when you are not feeling your best it is easy to get caught up in your own emotional down spirals and forget how it easy it is to reboot your inner self to feel happier and more optimistic about life. Here are five simple reminders to lift your mood and your spirit, and to help you to feel happier and to get more enjoyment out of your life.

1. Take a walk.
Short daily walks are not only a great way to exercise, but they are also great for the soul. Walking aligns the posture and allows the energy to flow through your spinal cord up to your brain. This can directly affect your mood for the better. Walking out doors also calms the mind and spirit by reacquainting you with the beauty of nature. If you are feeling out of sorts go out for a short stroll.

2. Listen to uplifting music.
This is one of my favorite ways to lift my mood. Uplifting and inspiring Music has the ability to shift your emotional state within seconds. Music is also a great way to motivate yourself out of a slump. Listen to inspiring motion picture soundtracks such as the theme to Chariots of Fire, Superman, or the The Lord of the Rings. There are hundreds of songs and soundtracks that you can choose from and use to instantly hack your mood for the better.

3. Read something inspiring.
Read something that inspires and encourages you. There are several great books, magazines, and online blogs that can help to not only lift your mood, but also educate you by giving you new perspectives and new ways in dealing with life's challenges.

4. Laugh.
Laughter is a sure way to positively lift your emotional state. Look around you for things that are humorous, or watch a comedy show (my favorite are I Love Lucy reruns). Laughter stimulates the the body's secretions of endorphins. Endorphins are often called the happy hormone. They are produced by the pituitary glands and act like opiates to reduce pain and bring about a feeling of euphoria and well-being.

5. Breathing meditation.
Rhythmic breathing creates mental and physical relaxation, and well as quiets and nurtures the spirit. Using the breath as a way to meditate is a simple exercise that you can do anywhere. Sit or lie comfortably with your spine straight, close your eyes and breath in deeply and slowly allowing air to fill your lower abdomen. Notice the flow of air as it enters and exits your nostrils. If a distracted thought comes, just let it go and continue to focus on your breath. Perform this meditation for 5 to 10 minutes and notice how much more centered, and alive you feel afterward.

Each of these five tips are simple and can be easily to performed any where. When you are feeling out of sorts, and emotionally less than your best take the time to apply one or more of these five tips to help you to feel happier, more emotionally centered, and inspired to get more enjoyment out of life.

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Become a Super Hero of Life!

Last week I had the opportunity to watch the motion picture The Green Lantern. The movie portrayed a regular human being who overcame not only insurmountable challenges, but also his fears and biases. This ultimately caused him to become a super hero equipped with superhuman powers from a sacred ring to overcome evil.

As I left the movie and walked through the parking lot to my car I saw a man wearing a black t-shirt with with the words "Super Hero Dad" written on it in blazing white ink. It got me thinking about all the people in my own life who reached the status of hero or heroine to me.

This caused me to wonder what characteristics and attitudes each of these people had in common. More importantly, I began to wonder how I could apply these characteristics into my life as well to become a super hero of life.

You don't need a sacred ring to become a super hero of life. Here are three super hero traits you can begin to apply in your life starting today.

Courage. Super hero's are a master at facing and overcoming challenges. Many people out of fear back away from challenge. Fear is a natural emotion when facing new unknown situations in life. It occurs most often when you step outside our comfort zone and face what may come with strong resolve. The sage advice is to feel that fear and move forward anyway. If you want to achieve great things in life, and to be a super hero to yourself and others, you must realize that if you want effective results there will come a time when you must face your deepest fears and reach outside your current fears and biases. Dont ignore your fears, take them for what they are - imagined probablities of what you think may occur. Be brave. Face your fears, and confidently move forward towards what it is you want or must do.

Optimism. Think in term of the positives. Super heros always have a positive outlook on their life and life circumstances. They realize that they have a 50/50 chance of being negative or positive and choose the latter. Train yourself to be optimistic in all areas of your life. Speak and act positively, and hang around with optimistic people. Listen and read positive uplifiting CD's and books. Attend life enriching seminars and workshops Your attitude gages what action you will take in life.

Self-determination. Self-determination means to take responsibility for the course of your life. Super heros take responsibility for not only their actions and attitudes, but also in creating the life of their dreams. They know exactly where they will be in 5, 10, 15, and 20 years from now. Take control of your life by taking the time to get clear about what you want out of life and make a plan of action to make it happen. Dont let real or perceived limitations keep you from achieving your best in life.

There is a super hero inside of all of us just waiting to get out. Sometimes, it takes an unexpected event to help you to bring that hero out. And sometimes, other people through a loving and patient attitude help you to see that hero in yourself.

You deserve to become a super hero of life! Take some time to develop the inner qualities of a super hero. Be courageous, be positive, and talk control of the reigns of your life so you can soar upwards and onwards towards new heights of success achievement starting today.

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