Goal Setting: The Magic of Congruence

Congruence is the state achieved by coming together, the state of agreement. The Latin congruō meaning “I meet together, I agree”. As an abstract term, congruence means similarity between objects. Congruence, as opposed to equivalence or approximation, is a relation which implies a kind of equivalence, though not complete equivalence.

Make sure you are congruent with your life purpose.

In order to assure, quick and effortless success you must make sure that your life goals match up and are defined in relationship with your life purpose. What do I mean?  Everything in your life flows from your heartfelt purpose, or intent. It is your purpose which is the lighthouse on the top of the hill.  Like the lighthouse beacon, it guides and directs you in every area of your life. Your purpose points you in the appropriate  direction everyday of your life.

Here is an example using part of my life purpose as a author: “To inspire and encourage myself and my readers to achieve our highest potential and to embrace our best life; To live an awakened life, consciously and freely in truth, love and power“, while my goal for the mental aspect of myself as a writer is to “To unlock and utilize the full creative capabilities of my mind.”  My goal then is actually a subset of my purpose which is to achieve my highest potential and to help others do the same. Both compliment each other and are therefore congruent.

So how do more specific goals like stopping smoking fit into the larger picture?

First, take a look at what that specific goal personally means to you. If I was a smoker and wanted to stop for instance, for me, stopping smoking would mean looking and feeling my personal best and achieving vibrant health. This would fit in with my with my purpose to embrace my highest potential.

Here's an eye opening truth, if your goals and your purpose are not congruent with one another, it either means that:

1.      Your goals are not in-line with what you really want to do, have, or be in life. If you find yourself in this category you need to take an honest evalutation of your overall life purpose and what it is that you want.  Revisit your purpose, and list your goals.   Then take a a look at each to understand 'the why' or the motivations you want to achieve or have these things.

2.      You have a limited the definition of your life purpose. In this case you will need to spend some time mulling over your life purpose and expanding your definition and vision of your purpose.

Do you know what your purpose is?

If you have not yet contemplated and/or discovered your life purpose , I highly recommend you read the informative articles Finding Your Life Purpose before proceeding, as your life purpose sets the right framework and background for your setting goals. The magic of congruency is that when you are able to identifying your life purpose you have absolute clarity on your direction and focus in life, which means that you do not need to spend your entire life trying to grow apples when you actually wanted grapefruit.

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Radio Cast - Mondays with Moojiji; Moving Through Life Without a Plan

Mondays with Moojiji; Moving Through Life Without a Plan

Perfect for kicking of the New Year! In this minicast spiritual teacher and author Moojiji states that we are conditioned with the need to rigidly rely on processed planning and thinking. While that is a plus, often times people miss out on living life in the present moment where there is clarity and peace. What would happen if you let go of your rigid plan and embraced life moment by moment? Listen in to find out . . .

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Transform Your Life Radio Cast: Interview with Patricia Crane and Rick Nichols

Episode 1: Transform Your Life! Interview with Patricia Crane and Rick Nichols

This episode of the Transform Your Life Radio Cast is extra special to me because I have two of my personal mentors Patricia Crane and Rick Nichols here to share - about the power of affirmations.
Both Patricia and Rick are internationally renowned speakers and workshop leaders, and best selling authors and I was particularly touched by two books of theirs which have become my favorites- which are Patricia’s “Ordering from the Cosmic Kitchen; The Essential Guide to Creating Powerful Affirmations; and Rick’s book - “Who do you think you are? A Fairytale for all ages.”

Enjoy . . .

To find out more about Dr. Patricia Crane and Rick Nichols go to www.heartinspired.com, or www.healyourlifeworkshops.com

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Motivation: The 3 P's That Hold You Back From Success

Do you set your standards high, but always feel like you've failed? Learn about the 3 "P's" and end the vicious cycle that keeps you stuck and ineffective.

The Vicious Cycle

Perfectionism, procrastination, and paralysis - one often leads to the next, in a vicious cycle, especially on large, long-term projects with no clear deadlines. Let's look at each part of this cycle, and explore some concrete steps that you can take to disrupt the cycle.

Perfectionism

Perfectionism can be defined as striving towards impossibly high goals. Perfectionists are caught in a trap, they can never be good enough. They engage in rigid, black or white thinking about their own performance, if it isn't perfect, it's horrible.

Ironically, perfectionists often achieve a product that is far less than perfect. At times, their performance is mediocre. In contrast, those who aim at more realistic goals can outperform the perfectionists. How can this be? The procrastination and paralysis that results from overly high standards causes the perfectionist to wait until it's too late, then rush to do something; anything. The more relaxed realist, in the meantime, is able to put an effort in earlier, over a more prolonged period of time, with more chance to let time and subsequent changes or editing improve the final product.

Procrastination

When you believe that your next project should set the world on fire, you are setting yourself up for failure. At some level you know that this level of achievement is unlikely. You lose your energy and excitement for your project.

On a football field, when the coach yells at the team that they are a bunch of @$#% for playing so poorly, the players may play better. That is because they are enraged at being humiliated and they can use the rage to batter their opponents. This doesn't not work in other spheres! Criticism, whether from your boss or your own inner critical audience slows you down, and interferes with your thinking process.

It is so easy to put off the next step of your project when thinking about it makes you experience unpleasant feelings. So you procrastinate. "I'll get started tomorrow, and work twice as hard." But it's hard for you to ignore the fact that you are not living up to your own high expectations for yourself. "I'm lazy." "I have no will power." As time goes on, you start to grind to a halt.

That leads to the third "P." Paralysis You do absolutely nothing on the very project that is most important to you. This is devastating for your self-esteem, and very discouraging. It's hard to plan your next project when you failed to complete your last one.

How to Avoid the 3 "P's" There are steps that you can take to avoid falling into the vicious cycle of the 3 "P's":

Become aware of the perfectionist audience voices in your head (no, you're not crazy.) You can't learn to ignore them if you don't know that they're talking to you.

Learn how to answer them back (don't do it out loud or people will think you're crazy.) An example would be, “OK it's not my best work but at least I'm finishing it.”

Look for role models who are satisfied with "good enough." Note how they get things done and are not looked down on by others.

Set up realistic goals. One way to tell if a goal is realistic is if you can actually do it. For example, "Read two articles and write for 15 minutes before 5:00 tonight" is a realistic goal. "Read two articles and write for 6 hours and write 10 pages before 5:00 tonight" is not a realistic goal.

If you have reached the third "P," drastic steps are needed. Talk to a trusted friend, find a "project buddy," or seek coaching. Do Not Give Up. It is very possible to get yourself out of the paralyzed state and back to productivity with just a little help.

A Final "P." Or Maybe Two Productivity Start with baby steps. Do a little every day. As you observe your own productivity, however small it may be, you will start to feel better about yourself. You were capable all along – it's just that your unrealistic expectations stopped you from functioning optimally. Eventually your productivity will start to look like Progress. And that's the last "P" for today.

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The Shocking Truth About How To Increase Your Productivity!

Before I share with you the simple, yet somewhat shocking truth about how to increase your productivity, take a look at the following questions to see how you fare.

Have you ever spent valuable minutes, hours and perhaps in some cases, even days searching for something you misplaced?

Have you ever argued with a loved one or scolded them for misplacing something of his or hers?

Have you ever missed a important date or an appointment because you forgot?

Have you ever been halfway to your destination and remembered you didn't bring what you needed?

Do you have piles of papers scattered on your desk or around the house, or have a stack of unopened and opened mail that you will get to someday?

Do you have that nagging notion constantly telling you to get organized?

Do you find yourself reading books and/or articles on how to get organized?

Have you purchased organizational tools to help you stay on top of things and then never used them?

If you answered yes to even one of these questions you are most likely not organized to the point you would like to be. I have a very simple solution to this problem. This is a tried and proven method to get you organized and eliminate all that wasted time spent trying to get organized. You can read as many books on the subject of organization as you want, and buy all of the tools, but you only need one thing. Let me share with you a little secret.

If you are serious about increasing your productivity and getting results you must get organized. Here is a little secret that my mother taught me when I was a little girl and it still works form me today – every time!!

PUT EVERYTHING BACK WHERE IT BELONGS.

Organization starts with putting everything in its own designated place. It doesn't mean to dump your stuff in a corner of a room designated for that particular item, but instead having a clean, and uncluttered area in which you can find the things you need in an instant.

It doesn't take a lot of work to get your life organized, but it does take dedicated effort to make it a habit. Here are just a few ideas that can help you become better organized.

Write your appointments and important dates in a designated calendar as soon as you are aware of them. You can also use the calendar application on your cell phone, as well as several online free reminders services, or your email calendar, in order to remind you of upcoming dates and appointments.

Develop a method to quickly and easily navigate through your mail. I often open up my mail in front of my paper shredder. Make three piles of mail in the following category - important, interesting, and trash. If the item is important it will need your immediate attention. Examples of important items are incoming bills, membership dues, and life, health, auto, and home insurances. Interesting items include magazines, and other pieces of mail that you would like to read a bit further. The trash pile is self-explanatory.

Designate an entire day to create "stations" for your stuff. I did this with my craft items and am quite pleased with how fast can find what I need.

Increasing your productivity starts with the habit of consistent organization. If you want to achieve massive results in your life you must learn to be organized. An organized life is not only a peaceful life, but more importantly, it is a successful life.

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Jim Rohn's Secrets to Goal Setting Mastery

Jim Rohn was one of America's foremost business philosophers and a master personal development coach. One of the greatest contributions Jim Rohn shared with the world is his SMART system; a proven method on how to effectively set and achieve goals.
 
SMART is an acronym that means Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-sensitive. The secret key to success in the new millennium is how you set and pursue goals and the application of the SMART system will not fail to deliver an abundant and fulfilling future

Here's a closer look at each of components of SMART:

Specific: A SMART goal is specific. Your goals should be specific and clear. Vagueness is a goal destroyer. Ambiguous goals produce ambiguous results. When you are specific, you harness the power of your dreams and set forces into action that compel and empower you to achieve your goals. There is no question about what you want to achieve. As you establish your priorities and manage your time, you are able to concentrate on your specific goal to achieve the results you expect.

Measurable:  A SMART goal is measurable. Jim Rohn suggests that you always set goals that provide you with a means of measuring your progress. They should be such that you know not only when you are progressing forward, but also how far you are progressing.  Measuring your progress keeps you on track. You cant arrive at a destination if your not able to determine where you were going.  Measurable goals also gives you a feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment by giving you a instant feedback of your forward progress.

Attainable:  A SMART goal is attainable. One of the biggest goal setting faux pas is to set goals that are so high they are unattainable. While I do believe that it is important for you to set big goals that cause your heart to soar with excitement, I also believe that it is imperative to make sure that you can attain those goals. So what does it mean to set a goal that is attainable?  An attainable goal is one that is both realistic but also attainable in a shorter period of time than what you have to work with. We will talk about realistic goals in the next component. Setting attainable goals doesn’t mean setting easy goals. Your goals should be set so they are just out of your reach; so they will challenge you to grow and stretch as you reach forward to achieve them.

Realistic: A SMART goal is realistic.  Your goals have to be something that you can reasonably make "real" or become a "reality" in your life. There are some goals that simply are not realistic. How then do you know your goals are realistic or not?  This to some degree up to each individual. To gauge if  your goal is realistic or not you need to extremely honest with yourself as you evaluate what you want to achieve and engage in your planning.  Here are some examples of unrealistic goals: trying to earn a billion dollars in one day, lose two hundred pounds in two days, get a law degree in one year, etc. 

Time:  A SMART goal has a time deadline. Each of your goals should have a time deadline attached to it.  Having a time deadline cuts off the thief of procrastination. Effective goals have an specific end time, a time in which you have set in order to achieve what it is that you want. Goal deadlines are great motivators because they move you into taking consistent and constructive action.

SMART: specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, time.

Get going.  Use the SMART system today.  Implementing Jim Rohn's SMART system in your goal setting routine will not only put you on the fast track toward achieving your success, but it will also help you to be encouraged and inspired as you achieve your heartfelt dreams and desires.



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5 Amazingly Simple Goal Setting Techniques

Goal setting techniques needn’t be a chore.  If you are passionate about changing the circumstances in your life and carving out a compelling an fulfilling lifestyle that you  have previously only dreamed about then its crucial to find the fastest and most direct route to get there.

Some years back as a newbie goal setter I came upon a goal setting system offered by personal development guru that was cumbersome, confusing, and in the end brought me to tears.  What I wanted was a few simple steps that I could apply in my life in an instant so that I can begin to to achieve immediate results.

What I discovered is that I didn’t need a fancy system or method for setting and achieving my heartfelt goals.  If you want a fast, simple, and more importantly effective goal setting method, all you need is a piece of paper and a written response to the five following goal setting steps:

1. Know exactly what you want.  Knowing what you want is like the key that starts the engine of your success mobile. Knowing what you want gives you clarity, direction and a purpose.
2. Write it down.  Writing your goal down on paper does several things but in a nutshell it lets your conscious and subconscious mind know that your serious. “Hey guys,” it says, “take a look at this! The boss wrote it down! This is important.”
3. Attach a reasonable deadline to your goal.  A goal set without a deadline is a dream.  Here is an example of how I attach deadlines to my goals that you may find helpful to you.  Before my written goal I write the following: “On or before date/month/year . . .”
4. Break your goal down into doable steps.  Personal development great Anthony Robbins calls this “chunking it down.”  I call this the “pizza pie” technique.  You cant (well at least I cant) sit down and eat a large, gooey, cheesy, pizza all in one bite.  You take it slice by slice.  Break your goal down into smaller steps.
5. Take effective action everyday.  This is where you take your broken down goal steps and go for it.  If you want to succeed in life you must take action and do what you need to do to get from where you are to where you want to be. 

Effective goal setting is an easy process and achievement of your goals begins when you follow the five simple techniques of goal setting presented above.  So go for it! Get your piece of paper out today, write down what you want, give it a deadline, break it up into steps, and go out there and make it happen!

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Earl Nightingale’s Fool Proof Daily Action Plan

Earl Nightingale was one of American’s most revered pioneers of personal development, and a true self-help legend. Since Earl’s passing March 25th, 1989, Nightingale-Conant continues to be among the elite companies in the world offering personal development and self-development courses and workshops.  One of the greatest contributions of Mr. Nightingale shared with the world in terms of power packed productivity are his tips on how to maximize your day to day productivity through a daily action plan. 

“We are at our very best, and we are happiest, when we are fully engaged in work we enjoy on the journey toward the goal we've established for ourselves. It gives meaning to our time off and comfort to our sleep. It makes everything else in life so wonderful, so worthwhile,” says Earl Nightingale.

Earl Nightingale’s ideas about setting and achieving goals are simple, practical, and of course effective.  Per Earl, the number one rule in terms of creating a fool proof daily action plan was always  ‘first things first’.  He passionately modeled the sage wisdom of St. Francis of Assisi with abundant and lasting results, “Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”

Earl Nightingale’s Fool Proof Action Plan consists of the following four steps:

1.  Before you go to bed at night, make a written list of those things you need to do the next day in order of importance. 
2.  The next day focus on item number one of your list until it is done, mark it off, and then go to the next item.
3.  Learn to minimize distractions.
4.  Whatever you don’t get done – put at the top of your list tomorrow.

In the words of Earl Nightingale, “All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.”   Get into the success habit of not only creating a daily action plan but also dedicating yourself to complete each task on that plan to create not only compounding momentum towards achieving what it is that you want to achieve in life, but also lasting and compelling change in your life.
 

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Goal Setting: 3 Daily Habits You Must Have to Achieve Your Goal

Your daily habits determine your destiny. "Success is the small sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out," says author Robert Collier.

Habits are an interesting thing. Your habits are actually patterns that your subconscious mind runs on an automatic basis.  These patterns if consciously directed can bring you an enormous amount of pleasure and satisfaction; such as with the habit of exercise, the habit of thinking in terms of the positives, and the habit of eating the right foods. But your habits can also be destructive if you don’t consciously recognize how they are directing your life.

In my own life I often felt that I had little time to write and do the things I really loved to do that increased the quality and fun in my day to day routine. This all changed once I realized my excessive television watching habits. When my day was over my habit was to sit my butt down in front of the television, and more often than not, spending four to five hours watching mindless entertainment. I actually cringed when I realized that twenty to thirty hours of my time per week was wasted in front of the old boob tube.

As with your daily habits, your success habits can also be constructive or destructive if you do not consciously make an effort to implement some daily habits into your life that will help you to stay focused on what it is that you want to achieve.

Here are three daily habits that you must have to stay on course and to achieve your hearts desire:

1. Discipline. Discipline yourself to look at your goals daily. This helps you to stay focused not only what it is you want, but also why it is important to you.
2. Persistence. Develop persistence. Create daily action steps towards the accomplishment of your goals and follow through until they are completed. Each step you complete is one step closer to achieving your goal.
3. Belief. Believe in yourself and your ability to succeed. Create a ritual everyday in which you remind yourself that you deserve what you want, that can achieve what you want, and that your outcome is achievable and possible to you. You can do this by positive affirmations. The habit of positive self-talk is an invaluable ally for success in any area of life.

The habit of success needs to be reinforced until it becomes a habit. Don't let negative habits run your life by default and ruin your chances of living an empowered and victorious life. Use the power of disciple, persistence, and belief to your advantage today and achieve massive results in your life now!

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3 Proven Steps To Make New Years Resolutions That Rock



 The New Year is finally upon us. Let me ask you a question. How did you do last year?  If you made some goals for yourself this past year, did you achieve them?  If you are like most people you probably answered no. Unfortunately many people make the choice of spending their same 365 days per year in survival mode. They are content in maintaing the status quo.

This year why don't you rock the boat?  Instead of living the same old 24/7 life routine, why don't you choose to have the best year of your life?

In this article I am going to show you 3 proven steps on how you can make New Year resolutions that rock! These steps will not only make your New Year pay off big for you, but can also turn your life around in 10 minutes or less.

Before I share with you this simple system for goals setting success, here is what you need: a timer, a pencil or pen, some paper, and an open mind.

Step 1:  Set your timer for 30 seconds. Now go! Write down your number one goal for this upcoming year in each of the following areas, Health and Fitness, Finances, and Relationship. When your five minutes is up stop! Put down your pen or pencil and move on to the next step..

Before you move on to step number two take a look at the three goals you have written down. If you would have achieved those three goals last year would it have been your best year ever?  If your answer is no then I suggest that you go back and repeat step one an choose bigger and better goals that will excite you and inspire you carry through and take action.

In only 30 seconds you were able to start your New Year off with actual clear targets that will make this year rock! Having specific targets to shoot for gives you tons of self-confidence and motivation by giving you a clear picture of what it is that you want to achieve, and knowing what it is that you want to have, be, or do, is the first step towards success and achievement.

Step 2:  Set your timer for timer for 5 minutes. Take a look at each of your three goals and ask yourself the following question: What do I need to do to make this happen within one year? If for some reason you can not complete your of your 3 goals in a particular area, chunk them down, or break them up into items that you can complete in one year. Go! Write your answers down. What you are essentially doing is creating a road map for yourself that will help you get from where you are to where you want to be. When your five minutes is up, stop! Put your pen or pencil down and move on to step three.

Step 3:  Set your timer for 4 minutes. Pick three people who you trust that can be your accountability partners. Choose people that will not only inspire you to keep going, but also those who will let you know when you are performing at less than your best. Accountability partners help to keep you honest and on track. Statistics have proven that goal setters with accountability partners are 80% more likely to achieve their goals then goal setters without. Choose one person for each goal. Next email, text, or call this person and let them know that you would like them to assist you this year in achieving your goals by holding you accountable to following through on your plan of action. Update your accountability partners regularly on progress.

Congratulations - you took less than ten minutes to improve the quality of your life this upcoming year. Setting a timer forces your subconscious mind to cut through all the minutia and helps you to really focus in on whats important to you. It prevents you from a thought process called mental looping and prevents you from second guessing yourself.

Consistently take action toward your 3 goals. Remember that action builds up momentum and that forward momentum equates into success and achievement. Have fun achieving, and best of luck in creating your best year ever!

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