Goal Setting: The Magic of Congruence

Congruence is the state achieved by coming together, the state of agreement. The Latin congruō meaning “I meet together, I agree”. As an abstract term, congruence means similarity between objects. Congruence, as opposed to equivalence or approximation, is a relation which implies a kind of equivalence, though not complete equivalence.

Make sure you are congruent with your life purpose.

In order to assure, quick and effortless success you must make sure that your life goals match up and are defined in relationship with your life purpose. What do I mean?  Everything in your life flows from your heartfelt purpose, or intent. It is your purpose which is the lighthouse on the top of the hill.  Like the lighthouse beacon, it guides and directs you in every area of your life. Your purpose points you in the appropriate  direction everyday of your life.

Here is an example using part of my life purpose as a author: “To inspire and encourage myself and my readers to achieve our highest potential and to embrace our best life; To live an awakened life, consciously and freely in truth, love and power“, while my goal for the mental aspect of myself as a writer is to “To unlock and utilize the full creative capabilities of my mind.”  My goal then is actually a subset of my purpose which is to achieve my highest potential and to help others do the same. Both compliment each other and are therefore congruent.

So how do more specific goals like stopping smoking fit into the larger picture?

First, take a look at what that specific goal personally means to you. If I was a smoker and wanted to stop for instance, for me, stopping smoking would mean looking and feeling my personal best and achieving vibrant health. This would fit in with my with my purpose to embrace my highest potential.

Here's an eye opening truth, if your goals and your purpose are not congruent with one another, it either means that:

1.      Your goals are not in-line with what you really want to do, have, or be in life. If you find yourself in this category you need to take an honest evalutation of your overall life purpose and what it is that you want.  Revisit your purpose, and list your goals.   Then take a a look at each to understand 'the why' or the motivations you want to achieve or have these things.

2.      You have a limited the definition of your life purpose. In this case you will need to spend some time mulling over your life purpose and expanding your definition and vision of your purpose.

Do you know what your purpose is?

If you have not yet contemplated and/or discovered your life purpose , I highly recommend you read the informative articles Finding Your Life Purpose before proceeding, as your life purpose sets the right framework and background for your setting goals. The magic of congruency is that when you are able to identifying your life purpose you have absolute clarity on your direction and focus in life, which means that you do not need to spend your entire life trying to grow apples when you actually wanted grapefruit.

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Radio Cast - Mondays with Moojiji; Moving Through Life Without a Plan

Mondays with Moojiji; Moving Through Life Without a Plan

Perfect for kicking of the New Year! In this minicast spiritual teacher and author Moojiji states that we are conditioned with the need to rigidly rely on processed planning and thinking. While that is a plus, often times people miss out on living life in the present moment where there is clarity and peace. What would happen if you let go of your rigid plan and embraced life moment by moment? Listen in to find out . . .

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Transform Your Life Radio Cast: Interview with Patricia Crane and Rick Nichols

Episode 1: Transform Your Life! Interview with Patricia Crane and Rick Nichols

This episode of the Transform Your Life Radio Cast is extra special to me because I have two of my personal mentors Patricia Crane and Rick Nichols here to share - about the power of affirmations.
Both Patricia and Rick are internationally renowned speakers and workshop leaders, and best selling authors and I was particularly touched by two books of theirs which have become my favorites- which are Patricia’s “Ordering from the Cosmic Kitchen; The Essential Guide to Creating Powerful Affirmations; and Rick’s book - “Who do you think you are? A Fairytale for all ages.”

Enjoy . . .

To find out more about Dr. Patricia Crane and Rick Nichols go to www.heartinspired.com, or www.healyourlifeworkshops.com

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Jim Rohn's Secrets to Goal Setting Mastery

Jim Rohn was one of America's foremost business philosophers and a master personal development coach. One of the greatest contributions Jim Rohn shared with the world is his SMART system; a proven method on how to effectively set and achieve goals.
 
SMART is an acronym that means Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-sensitive. The secret key to success in the new millennium is how you set and pursue goals and the application of the SMART system will not fail to deliver an abundant and fulfilling future

Here's a closer look at each of components of SMART:

Specific: A SMART goal is specific. Your goals should be specific and clear. Vagueness is a goal destroyer. Ambiguous goals produce ambiguous results. When you are specific, you harness the power of your dreams and set forces into action that compel and empower you to achieve your goals. There is no question about what you want to achieve. As you establish your priorities and manage your time, you are able to concentrate on your specific goal to achieve the results you expect.

Measurable:  A SMART goal is measurable. Jim Rohn suggests that you always set goals that provide you with a means of measuring your progress. They should be such that you know not only when you are progressing forward, but also how far you are progressing.  Measuring your progress keeps you on track. You cant arrive at a destination if your not able to determine where you were going.  Measurable goals also gives you a feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment by giving you a instant feedback of your forward progress.

Attainable:  A SMART goal is attainable. One of the biggest goal setting faux pas is to set goals that are so high they are unattainable. While I do believe that it is important for you to set big goals that cause your heart to soar with excitement, I also believe that it is imperative to make sure that you can attain those goals. So what does it mean to set a goal that is attainable?  An attainable goal is one that is both realistic but also attainable in a shorter period of time than what you have to work with. We will talk about realistic goals in the next component. Setting attainable goals doesn’t mean setting easy goals. Your goals should be set so they are just out of your reach; so they will challenge you to grow and stretch as you reach forward to achieve them.

Realistic: A SMART goal is realistic.  Your goals have to be something that you can reasonably make "real" or become a "reality" in your life. There are some goals that simply are not realistic. How then do you know your goals are realistic or not?  This to some degree up to each individual. To gauge if  your goal is realistic or not you need to extremely honest with yourself as you evaluate what you want to achieve and engage in your planning.  Here are some examples of unrealistic goals: trying to earn a billion dollars in one day, lose two hundred pounds in two days, get a law degree in one year, etc. 

Time:  A SMART goal has a time deadline. Each of your goals should have a time deadline attached to it.  Having a time deadline cuts off the thief of procrastination. Effective goals have an specific end time, a time in which you have set in order to achieve what it is that you want. Goal deadlines are great motivators because they move you into taking consistent and constructive action.

SMART: specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, time.

Get going.  Use the SMART system today.  Implementing Jim Rohn's SMART system in your goal setting routine will not only put you on the fast track toward achieving your success, but it will also help you to be encouraged and inspired as you achieve your heartfelt dreams and desires.



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5 Amazingly Simple Goal Setting Techniques

Goal setting techniques needn’t be a chore.  If you are passionate about changing the circumstances in your life and carving out a compelling an fulfilling lifestyle that you  have previously only dreamed about then its crucial to find the fastest and most direct route to get there.

Some years back as a newbie goal setter I came upon a goal setting system offered by personal development guru that was cumbersome, confusing, and in the end brought me to tears.  What I wanted was a few simple steps that I could apply in my life in an instant so that I can begin to to achieve immediate results.

What I discovered is that I didn’t need a fancy system or method for setting and achieving my heartfelt goals.  If you want a fast, simple, and more importantly effective goal setting method, all you need is a piece of paper and a written response to the five following goal setting steps:

1. Know exactly what you want.  Knowing what you want is like the key that starts the engine of your success mobile. Knowing what you want gives you clarity, direction and a purpose.
2. Write it down.  Writing your goal down on paper does several things but in a nutshell it lets your conscious and subconscious mind know that your serious. “Hey guys,” it says, “take a look at this! The boss wrote it down! This is important.”
3. Attach a reasonable deadline to your goal.  A goal set without a deadline is a dream.  Here is an example of how I attach deadlines to my goals that you may find helpful to you.  Before my written goal I write the following: “On or before date/month/year . . .”
4. Break your goal down into doable steps.  Personal development great Anthony Robbins calls this “chunking it down.”  I call this the “pizza pie” technique.  You cant (well at least I cant) sit down and eat a large, gooey, cheesy, pizza all in one bite.  You take it slice by slice.  Break your goal down into smaller steps.
5. Take effective action everyday.  This is where you take your broken down goal steps and go for it.  If you want to succeed in life you must take action and do what you need to do to get from where you are to where you want to be. 

Effective goal setting is an easy process and achievement of your goals begins when you follow the five simple techniques of goal setting presented above.  So go for it! Get your piece of paper out today, write down what you want, give it a deadline, break it up into steps, and go out there and make it happen!

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Earl Nightingale’s Fool Proof Daily Action Plan

Earl Nightingale was one of American’s most revered pioneers of personal development, and a true self-help legend. Since Earl’s passing March 25th, 1989, Nightingale-Conant continues to be among the elite companies in the world offering personal development and self-development courses and workshops.  One of the greatest contributions of Mr. Nightingale shared with the world in terms of power packed productivity are his tips on how to maximize your day to day productivity through a daily action plan. 

“We are at our very best, and we are happiest, when we are fully engaged in work we enjoy on the journey toward the goal we've established for ourselves. It gives meaning to our time off and comfort to our sleep. It makes everything else in life so wonderful, so worthwhile,” says Earl Nightingale.

Earl Nightingale’s ideas about setting and achieving goals are simple, practical, and of course effective.  Per Earl, the number one rule in terms of creating a fool proof daily action plan was always  ‘first things first’.  He passionately modeled the sage wisdom of St. Francis of Assisi with abundant and lasting results, “Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”

Earl Nightingale’s Fool Proof Action Plan consists of the following four steps:

1.  Before you go to bed at night, make a written list of those things you need to do the next day in order of importance. 
2.  The next day focus on item number one of your list until it is done, mark it off, and then go to the next item.
3.  Learn to minimize distractions.
4.  Whatever you don’t get done – put at the top of your list tomorrow.

In the words of Earl Nightingale, “All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.”   Get into the success habit of not only creating a daily action plan but also dedicating yourself to complete each task on that plan to create not only compounding momentum towards achieving what it is that you want to achieve in life, but also lasting and compelling change in your life.
 

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The Power of Patience and Persistence

I watched this afternoon as a young child waited patiently with his mother in a crowded Costco line for 20 minutes - for a slice of pizza, and I was impressed. When I was his age I had very little patience. If I wanted something, I wanted it then, and I wanted now.

This sort of “I want it now, now, now!” attitude stuck with me as I graduated from college causing my now ex-husband and I to drain our savings and our credit cards in order to enjoy a lifestyle that was way beyond our means. In the end our impatience to have it right now cost us a good credit score and resulted in filing for bankruptcy, notwithstanding a divorce a few years later.

Although it was a painful situation at the time I learned a valuable lesson and emerged wiser and with a more appreciative view of the power of patience and persistence.

Of course I know that I am not the only I’m not the only one with an “I want it, and I want it now!” mentality. People of all ages fall into this category of either wanting it all now, or wanting it without having to work for it. Impatience is costly. Not only can it lead to debt and start a cycle of unnecessary consumption and lifestyle inflation, but also impatience robs you of your drive and passion to enjoy the journey of progressive success and accomplishment.

The Power of Patience and Persistence

Of course, patience alone and persistence doesn’t always guarantee success in any particular area of your life, but it definitely increases your odds. Here are just a few of the ways patience can help you achieve your heartfelt goals:

• Patience and persistence allows you to not only notice opportunities but also to take advantage of them. I am sure you have heard the expression, ‘good things happen to those who wait.’ If you’re willing to forge the successful life you have always dreamed of step-by-step, instead of trying to force it, you will encounter opportunities that you may have overlooked if you were trying to sloppily rush towards achieving your goals.

• Patience and persistence increases your self-esteem. If you are really passionate about wanting to achieve something in your life, you will take pride in the process. I don’t know about you, but my heart soars as I focus on my daily action plan of success. With each step of my accomplishment not only does my self-discipline increase, but also my confidence in completing my project, as well as my self-esteem.

• Patience and persistence helps you to focus on what is important in life. In my experience, and perhaps in yours as well, I have noticed that as I age, my values change. Patience and persistence allows you to assess those things that really matter to you, and to practice focusing on those things and enjoying them. It is the pull of the pleasure of consistently pursuing your goals, spending quality time with the people you love, and just plain enjoying the beauty of life that keeps you engaged in life today – not the allure of climbing the corporate ladder.

• Patience and persistence keeps you focused on your goal. By utilizing a simple plan of action, patience and persistence keeps you disciplined and focused on what needs to be done next in terms of achieving your dream or goal. It means focusing on first things first, and not on those things that are either time wasters, or those things that have nothing to do with your goal at all. It means living your life your way by keeping your eyes focused on the prize of achievement.

The power of patience and persistence go hand in hand. If you can learn the value of patience and persistence, the world will open up to you. Remember, anything worth achieving in life is worth taking your time to do it in such a way that you enjoy all of the virtues of your focused passion, and keeping at it until you get your desired result. Benjamin Franklin once said, “He that can have patience, can have what he wills.”

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Goal Setting: 3 Daily Habits You Must Have to Achieve Your Goal

Your daily habits determine your destiny. "Success is the small sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out," says author Robert Collier.

Habits are an interesting thing. Your habits are actually patterns that your subconscious mind runs on an automatic basis.  These patterns if consciously directed can bring you an enormous amount of pleasure and satisfaction; such as with the habit of exercise, the habit of thinking in terms of the positives, and the habit of eating the right foods. But your habits can also be destructive if you don’t consciously recognize how they are directing your life.

In my own life I often felt that I had little time to write and do the things I really loved to do that increased the quality and fun in my day to day routine. This all changed once I realized my excessive television watching habits. When my day was over my habit was to sit my butt down in front of the television, and more often than not, spending four to five hours watching mindless entertainment. I actually cringed when I realized that twenty to thirty hours of my time per week was wasted in front of the old boob tube.

As with your daily habits, your success habits can also be constructive or destructive if you do not consciously make an effort to implement some daily habits into your life that will help you to stay focused on what it is that you want to achieve.

Here are three daily habits that you must have to stay on course and to achieve your hearts desire:

1. Discipline. Discipline yourself to look at your goals daily. This helps you to stay focused not only what it is you want, but also why it is important to you.
2. Persistence. Develop persistence. Create daily action steps towards the accomplishment of your goals and follow through until they are completed. Each step you complete is one step closer to achieving your goal.
3. Belief. Believe in yourself and your ability to succeed. Create a ritual everyday in which you remind yourself that you deserve what you want, that can achieve what you want, and that your outcome is achievable and possible to you. You can do this by positive affirmations. The habit of positive self-talk is an invaluable ally for success in any area of life.

The habit of success needs to be reinforced until it becomes a habit. Don't let negative habits run your life by default and ruin your chances of living an empowered and victorious life. Use the power of disciple, persistence, and belief to your advantage today and achieve massive results in your life now!

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How to Master Your Time with These 3 Simple Steps

Time management is one of the least mastered and most desired skills in our fast-paced modern world. To be successful at life, to have, and be everything that you desire, learning the art of time management crucial.

What can you do to double your time management skills?  Here are 3 things you can begin to do starting today:

1.  Eliminate time wasters in your life. Time wasters are things that interrupt you and you spend time doing, but you wouldn't have chosen to do them given the choice. Eliminating these time wasters is critical for time management:

Email---If you are spending more than 30 minutes per day on email (unless that is your business) you are spending too much!

Telephone---If you answer the phone live more than 5 times per day during your productive time (work, work at home, etc.) you are sacrificing time management and efficiency. When you answer the phone, you interrupt your current productive flow and this kills your productivity.

Television---This must be limited for you to achieve ultimate control over your time. My recommendation is 30 minutes per day, especially if you are not getting all the things done you need or want to.

2.  Make a list of what is genuinely important in your life and just start doing the things on your list.  One of the keys to time management is prioritization---you absolutely must know what you want to accomplish and then go do it. Today's world has too many distractions and when you allow those distractions to become priority, you sacrifice time management. Follow these steps:

Make of list of what you want to accomplish

Set time frames for accomplishing each item

Organize each item in order of importance

Create a game plan for achieving each of your goals in its respective time frame

3.  Begin to focus on time management throughout the course of the day. Your consistent focus must be on managing your time. Once you have determined your goals and your priorities, start focusing on simply getting those things done. If something isn't on your goals list for this week - don't do it until all your goals are done. When you prioritize every interruption that occurs and put your goals last, you will not accomplish your goals. Instead, you will be a slave (as you probably are now) to interruptions and probably feel like you never accomplish enough.

Learning the skill of time management is truly is critical to becoming successful, doing everything you want to, and achieving ultimate success. Begin to apply one or more of these steps into our daily management program starting today and enjoy the benefits of having more time play at life!

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How to Create Your Own Bucket List

What is a bucket list?  A 'bucket list' is a list of all the things you would like to achieve or experience before you die. A bucket list is really a list of your lifetime goals.

A list of your lifetime goals helps you to not only determine your unique wants and dreams, but it also helps you to define your overall life purpose.

Clearly knowing what you want is the key in the ignition of achievement. It starts the engine of success and accomplishment and creates momentum. Once you know exactly what you want to do and accomplish in life you need to create some small daily rituals that translate in action.

Creating a bucket list should be a fun and motivating project. Here are some tips that will help you to create your own bucket list.

Get out a notebook and a pen, or open up a new document in your word processor. Begin by writing down your answers to the following questions. Write down the first thing that pops into your mind.

If I knew I was going to die tomorrow what one thing would I do before I died?
What have I always wanted to do but have not done yet?
If I didn't have to worry about time money what things would I be doing?
What countries, places or locations do I want to visit?
What are my biggest goals and aspirations?
What people would I like to meet?
What do I want to achievement?
What experiences do I want to have / feel?
What special moments you would I want to witness?
What would I like to say or do with those people important to me. People I love, my family, my friends?
What do I want to achieve in these different areas: Social, Love, Family, Career, Finance, Health Spiritual?
What things can I do that would bring my life the greatest meaning and personal satisfaction?

Write down as many things that come to your mind. Personal development teacher and author Jim Rohn suggest coming up with 100 things on your list. If you cant think of 100 things right away dont worry. You can add things to your list at a later date as they come to you.

Once you have made your list the next thing you need to do is to pick ten things that currently inspire you most and attach a deadline to them, and write down what you need to make it happen. If for example one of your goals is to go on a sailing excursion in Hawaii, you might need to start saving up some money for the trip and also start investigating sail boat charters, airfare, and hotel accommodations.

Once you have completed an item on your list cross it off and celebrate! Read your list often to see the things that you have accomplished and to get excited about what is to come. Add and subtract things to your list as you seem appropriate.

Creating a bucket list is a great way to get excited about life and living it. You dont have to wait until you are on your death bed to do and experience the best out of life. Write your list today and live a life of passion without regret.

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3 Proven Steps To Make New Years Resolutions That Rock



 The New Year is finally upon us. Let me ask you a question. How did you do last year?  If you made some goals for yourself this past year, did you achieve them?  If you are like most people you probably answered no. Unfortunately many people make the choice of spending their same 365 days per year in survival mode. They are content in maintaing the status quo.

This year why don't you rock the boat?  Instead of living the same old 24/7 life routine, why don't you choose to have the best year of your life?

In this article I am going to show you 3 proven steps on how you can make New Year resolutions that rock! These steps will not only make your New Year pay off big for you, but can also turn your life around in 10 minutes or less.

Before I share with you this simple system for goals setting success, here is what you need: a timer, a pencil or pen, some paper, and an open mind.

Step 1:  Set your timer for 30 seconds. Now go! Write down your number one goal for this upcoming year in each of the following areas, Health and Fitness, Finances, and Relationship. When your five minutes is up stop! Put down your pen or pencil and move on to the next step..

Before you move on to step number two take a look at the three goals you have written down. If you would have achieved those three goals last year would it have been your best year ever?  If your answer is no then I suggest that you go back and repeat step one an choose bigger and better goals that will excite you and inspire you carry through and take action.

In only 30 seconds you were able to start your New Year off with actual clear targets that will make this year rock! Having specific targets to shoot for gives you tons of self-confidence and motivation by giving you a clear picture of what it is that you want to achieve, and knowing what it is that you want to have, be, or do, is the first step towards success and achievement.

Step 2:  Set your timer for timer for 5 minutes. Take a look at each of your three goals and ask yourself the following question: What do I need to do to make this happen within one year? If for some reason you can not complete your of your 3 goals in a particular area, chunk them down, or break them up into items that you can complete in one year. Go! Write your answers down. What you are essentially doing is creating a road map for yourself that will help you get from where you are to where you want to be. When your five minutes is up, stop! Put your pen or pencil down and move on to step three.

Step 3:  Set your timer for 4 minutes. Pick three people who you trust that can be your accountability partners. Choose people that will not only inspire you to keep going, but also those who will let you know when you are performing at less than your best. Accountability partners help to keep you honest and on track. Statistics have proven that goal setters with accountability partners are 80% more likely to achieve their goals then goal setters without. Choose one person for each goal. Next email, text, or call this person and let them know that you would like them to assist you this year in achieving your goals by holding you accountable to following through on your plan of action. Update your accountability partners regularly on progress.

Congratulations - you took less than ten minutes to improve the quality of your life this upcoming year. Setting a timer forces your subconscious mind to cut through all the minutia and helps you to really focus in on whats important to you. It prevents you from a thought process called mental looping and prevents you from second guessing yourself.

Consistently take action toward your 3 goals. Remember that action builds up momentum and that forward momentum equates into success and achievement. Have fun achieving, and best of luck in creating your best year ever!

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